Welcome to Ghost of a Podcast. I'm your host, Jessica Lanyadoo. I'm an astrologer, psychic medium, and animal communicator, and I'm going to give you your weekly horoscope and no-bullshit mystical advice for living your very best life.

Jessica:      All right, Georgia.

Georgia:     Hello.

Jessica:      Hello, hello. Welcome. What are we doing a reading about?

Georgia:          Thank you so much for having me, Jessica. "I've been feeling stuck for a while in multiple areas of my life—romance, career, friendships, etc.—not sure how to make major moves in my life with the world going up in flames around us. How do I get unstuck? Sincerely, Georgia."

Jessica:            Okay. So we're going to look at your chart. We're not sharing your birth date, but you were born in LA at, theoretically, 5:00 p.m. in 1982. Do you identify as xennial?

Georgia:          Yes. That feels right.

Jessica:            I feel like a xennial chart is like—let's call it xennial. Let's just lean in. Okay. So you say you're feeling stuck.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Love, friends, career stuff.

Georgia:          All the things.

Jessica:            All the super fucking important things.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            And so let me ask you a couple contextual questions.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            The first is, is feeling stuck a common feeling for you, or is this kind of a unique moment for you?

Georgia:          I feel like, probably within the last two years, it's been this feeling of being frozen or not moving forward with, I would say, dreams that I've had pretty much my whole life. I'm just not where I expected to be at this stage in life. I guess particularly last year/this year, it just feels like I'm at a standstill. I don't know. It was pretty bad last year—a little dissociated last year, not really wanting to do much socially. But I did travel a lot. I love traveling. That seems to be a bright spot for me right now. It just makes me feel better. But I know that's a form of escapism, so yeah.

Jessica:            Are you traveling alone?

Georgia:          Yes, but to meet up with groups, to meet in groups.

Jessica:            Okay. Okay. So you're both alone and with people—

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            —kind of at the same time. Okay. So I'm going to tell you this. Okay. Okay. So, if you've been feeling super stuck over the last three years, then there's a number of things I want to say. The first is there's so much energy for change in your chart over the last couple of years and in 2026.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            It's not easy, though. So bear with me, okay, because you are, as a xennial is, in your midlife crisis transits. And so, for about two years, Neptune square to Neptune was happening. Okay. So it ended in March of 2025, okay? So it's been over for less than a year, but it was going on for two years. Now, you had other things going on in 2025, but let's stick with the Neptune square to Neptune. So we're talking about '23, '24, like, 2023 and 2024.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            And I'm assuming those were some rough years.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Yeah. Neptune square to Neptune is when you're at this age where you realize how important having meaning in your life is, and all the things that you do or that you have going that do not offer you meaning start to feel demoralizing, producing anxiety, and just—they can feel like classic Neptune, just overwhelmed. It's like, "I can't do anything about it. I'm stuck." And it's a really challenging set of feelings that come up. Does that make sense to you?

Georgia:          Absolutely.

Jessica:            Yeah. And because of where Neptune is in your birth chart, Neptune is in the fifth house, and it was transiting you from the eighth house. And so what this means in English is it triggered issues around sex and play and romance.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            Also deep and playful connections with friends.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            And what do you do for a career currently?

Georgia:          Well, I work in customer service. Yeah.

Jessica:            And you don't like it?

Georgia:          I hate it.

Jessica:            Okay.

Georgia:          I was never planning to do that. It's sort of something that I find myself still here. I never meant to be.

Jessica:            I agree, not meant to be.

Georgia:          [crosstalk].

Jessica:            We'll get there for a moment.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            But before we talk about the topic, I just want to name that when I asked you what your career was and you answered, your energy froze and pulled back.

Georgia:          Initially, I wanted to say I am a writer.

Jessica:            Okay. Okay. Great.

Georgia:          That's the passion.

Jessica:            That's in your heart.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            We're going to talk about writing, then. Don't let me forget to talk about writing, okay?

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Let me say this before we move on. Because you didn't like something that was happening in the moment because I was bringing your attention to something that's fucked up for you in whatever ways, your energetic response was freeze and jump ship.

Georgia:          Oh. Wow.

Jessica:            But you're the ship.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            And so I want to just name that, because it is this process of how you cope with challenging reality that is, at core, what we're talking about. So, immediately, we kind of got into something that is really important. It's the way you abandon yourself when faced with something of yourself that you don't know how you—like, you don't like how you feel about it. So we're going to return to that, but okay. You have a Venus/South Node conjunction. Customer service—it fucking destroys your soul. You fucking hate it. So I am with you. This is not the move. We can come back to that. But I feel like we need to hang out for a minute with love and friends.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            Okay. And who do you date? What kind of peoples?

Georgia:          Men.

Jessica:            Men. Okay. Hes, hes, hes, hes. And I'm assuming you're not in a relationship right now.

Georgia:          No. It has been quite some time.

Jessica:            What's that mean? How many years or—

Georgia:          Oh, I would say, well, maybe two summers ago, I did try dating again. And then maybe the end of 2021, I was dating. But prior to that, like a serious relationship, ten years.

Jessica:            Okay. Great. And you want a serious relationship, right?

Georgia:          I do.

Jessica:            Okay. Let's talk about this for a minute.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            And you have been in a long-term relationship before, yeah?

Georgia:          Yes, in the past.

Jessica:            Yeah. So I'm just going to jump to it because I know we're going to talk about a lot of very intense topics, so I'm going to be more to the damn point, okay? You have this stellium between Mars, Saturn, and Pluto. They're all sitting really close to each other—

Georgia:          Oh, wow.

Jessica:            —in Libra. Yeah. Right here. Right here.

Georgia:          Jeez.

Jessica:            And that stellium makes you fiercely loyal, fiercely monogamous, fiercely in need of a partner who is clear: "I choose you. I'll be home at 4:31, not 4:37." Right?

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Time is really important to you—Pisces Sun be fucking damned. You really require a man who maybe plays Scrabble but no other games. You cannot handle games.

Georgia:          No.

Jessica:            Your abandonment issues are so—

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            —sensitive that it's really rough for you. So, for you, a broken heart or broken trust, which I will say are very fine line between the two for you—

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            —makes you kind of once bitten, twice shy.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            You don't have it in your nature to be like, "Yeah, that hurt. Let's try it again." That's not—

Georgia:          No.

Jessica:            That is not you.

Georgia:          I don't know.

Jessica:            No, no, no. And then, on top of it, you've got this Neptune in the fifth house. So you're stupid romantic.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            So romantic. You're so romantic. And then, by contrast, you are the most jaded realist who believes that love can never happen.

Georgia:          That's fun. Yeah. (laughs)

Jessica:            (laughs) Sorry. It's terrible. We laugh so we don't cry. Am I right?

Georgia:          Yes. Absolutely.

Jessica:            Yeah. Okay. Okay. And so, at core, part of what has happened over 2023, 2024, and into the beginning of 2025, is you were feeling the spiritual pain of not having figured out how to have boundaries around your tender, tender heart. And instead, what you've done is pulled back from men.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            And do you even have male friends?

Georgia:          Yes, but I would say we're not as close as we once were. And that seems to be a theme with most of my friends. It's like everyone is doing their own thing, you know, spread out.

Jessica:            It's the age.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            It's the age, right? Because you're right now early 40s?

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Yeah.

Georgia:          So it is—well, some are married, have families, and others are just—I don't know what they're doing.

Jessica:            I mean, it's a thing. As you hit your 40s and your 50s, it's like people slip into habits. They slip into—some people are really focused on certain goals. Some people are really focused on self-protection.

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            It's a thing that happens, and it gets more intense unless you make choices because, as we age, there's this momentum. It takes effort to resist the momentum and the momentum of going into probability. And for you, probability is, "I have these wild crushes when I let myself, but they're never realistic, and they can never really happen, and I would never, ever make a move."

Georgia:          Oh my gosh.

Jessica:            You're welcome. You're welcome. So sorry.

Georgia:          I'm like, yeah, no.

Jessica:            Yeah. It's intense for you. It's really intense. So you go for these unattainable men or unattainable situations as a way to allow yourself to experience desire and romance without any actual risk of getting hurt, even though it hurts like hell.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            This is the fucked up thing, is humans—we're very good at convincing ourselves that the things that we're doing to create the very circumstances we don't want is the safest thing we can do.

Georgia:          Oh, wow.

Jessica:            Yeah.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            And so I'm going to give you advice about dating. I'm going to just give you advice about dating, okay?

Georgia:          I need it.

Jessica:            Okay. I'm going to give it to you, and you're going to hate it. Get ready to hate my advice. You don't have to take it, or you can take it, but here we go. Okay. Would you ever do online dating?

Georgia:          I did.

Jessica:            Okay. Great. Great, great, great, great.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            And when you went online, did you actually swipe with the people—did you have connections?

Georgia:          See, I didn't do the swiping. I did matchmaking.

Jessica:            Okay. Okay. So it was like you paid a matchmaker?

Georgia:          Exactly. Yeah.

Jessica:            And what happened? Obviously not.

Georgia:          So three dates, basically three blind dates. Fun. And the first one, it was like we had common interests, but that was it.

Jessica:            Yeah.

Georgia:          Second guy was really into himself. And third guy, he was—so I'm laid back, sort of, or I can be.

Jessica:            Yeah. Yeah.

Georgia:          So third guy was more laid back than me, which was a problem because I had to lead all the time, like force conversation. I don't like forcing conversation.

Jessica:            No, no, no. No, no, no. Not at all. You're a Leo Rising. You want to be chosen.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Yes. Okay. Would you ever do free, cheapo dating sites?

Georgia:          I could. I've never done it, but yeah.

Jessica:            Yeah. Let me tell you why I'm suggesting it.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            I actually think matchmaking is a great idea. I mean, I'm a fan of it. But we're going to talk about career. And I'm not trying to give you more money to spend. So I'm curious about whether or not you could do one of any number of things or do a little bit of all the things. Get yourself a—whatever—Hinge, whatever.  I don't know what people use right now, but get yourself an account. And set the goal that you are going to flirt with people who don't seem shitty. So I'm saying people who don't seem shitty because—

Georgia:          I know.

Jessica:            You know I'm saying not guys who you're like, "Oh, I could see myself dating him." You can't see yourself—we're adults, right? You can't see yourself dating stranger danger on the internet.

Georgia:          No.

Jessica:            So more a question of, can you just flirt via text? So that's step 1 goal. Here's goal 2. Let's say you're flirting with somebody. One week has passed. That's too long without setting up a date. So then I suggest to you, can you ask a person if they would want to eat coffee or go for a walk with you?

Georgia:          Okay. Yeah.

Jessica:            Is that something you could do?

Georgia:          It sounds simple.

Jessica:            Okay.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            Simple. I would even recommend, somewhere on your phone or your computer, just writing it out, like, "Hey, would you want to—we've been chatting for a few minutes. Would you want to meet up for a coffee or a walk?" Write it before you meet the guy so it doesn't feel like, "I have to write a text to this person." You've already written it. This is a stranger. You're not writing anything to anyone. You are doing something for yourself.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            These actions are, of course, actions that can lead to dating. But they're also actions that will break up the inertia you're dealing with. Have you ever had lactic acid in your body, and you have to massage to break it down?

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            That's what these actions are.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            It's not like you massage it once, and then the lactic acid is gone; we're done. It's—you know to work it. You have to move it out, and it's going to break up and be gross. That's what we're talking about. That's what I'm trying to get you to do, is to break up the energy because the energy is congealed. It's stuck.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            So these are not actions to have you fall in love.

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            That's a terrible goal.

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            It's a terrible goal because you will too easily, with all that Pluto/Saturn/Mars stuff and your Capricorn Moon, find 50 things wrong with him on the first date or be really idealistic about him. You vacillate between these two extremes.

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            And both of them make you not be true to—you're not yourself around guys because of it.

Georgia:          Wow.

Jessica:            So my advice, this first piece of advice, is to do things that interrupt your patterns. Now, let's say you do these things, and then you end up on a date. And you're like, "I don't know. I don't know. He's not gross, and I'm not sure if I'm attracted to him. And he's perfectly pleasant, but I'm not sure that I'm interested in him." You go on a second date. Now, let's say he talks the whole time, or he makes you feel shitty about yourself, or he's rude to the person serving you coffee. Okay. Fuck him. Never mind. We're done. You did one. Good on you. But I want to encourage you to have a willingness to get to know people instead of a goal to fall in love and get partnered—

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            —because if you get to know someone, then you can see, "Do I like this person?" If you're going out to fall in love, it's, "Is this person good enough? Does this person like me?"

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            It puts you on your back foot in that way. So that's one piece of advice I'm going to give you. Another piece of advice I'm going to give you—it's like my patented advice. I firmly believe in this advice, okay?

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            First three dates, you're just seeing if you want to go on a real date with this person. This is a rule. So I'm giving you rules, okay? You have a Capricorn Moon; you like a rule, right?

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Okay. Cool, cool, cool, cool. So the first three dates are not if you can figure out if you fall in love with them. It's not if you can figure out if you want to be serious with them. It's just like, can you be yourself around them? Can they be themselves around you? Can you even imagine being interested in them? And for you, sex is not something you do on a first date or anything, eh?

Georgia:          No. No.

Jessica:            No. No. So, for you, sex is romantic.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            It's a step towards love. And so there's no consideration of even kissing before the third date. If you want to kiss on the third date—I mean, if you want to kiss on the first date, go for it.

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            But I think it's good for you to go in with a, "This is how I'm approaching dating," so you don't have to negotiate it with each individual guy, because it's not a real negotiation. It's just you need boundaries. And if your boundary is, "Oh, I don't kiss before the third date," then you don't have to fucking worry about it.

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            Okay. Now, after the third date, if you're still going out on dates, it takes three months to get to know if you want to be serious with someone. That's my theory. Now, sometimes it happens that you just meet someone and you fall for them, and then you're in a relationship. But you're at an age and also a stage in your life where you have been waiting for that Disney princess moment where you feel the feelings, and you're overcome, and fate takes over. And that's not working for you, right?

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            So I am giving you a pragmatist's realist approach. And within this container, one can fall in love and have as much romance as you like, but you don't go in with the expectation that all of your walls will melt away before three months have passed or you know whether or not you can trust this man before three months have passed, because trust, for you, is slow. Sometimes you give it away. You give it away. But genuine trust, for you, is slow.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            And how woo-woo are you? Do you do manifestation work? How woo-woo are you?

Georgia:          I have, but not consistently. I'm not as consistent as I would like to be.

Jessica:            No problem. No problem. So I do want to give you one more piece of homework about men, and then we're going to move on from men unless you have questions. And this is my homework about men. It's I want to encourage you to write out a list, and not get off the phone with me, sit down, and write out a list. I mean spend the next two months or more, if you want to—every time you think to write on this list, you just fold the piece of paper so that you can't see what you wrote last time, okay?

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            And what I want you to do is not write down what you want in a man—don't you dare write down what you want in a man, because that's not real.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            Instead, what I want you to do is write down what you want in a dynamic, in a relationship. So it can't be, "He's funny," because people think Jim Carrey is funny. I think Jim Carrey is ridiculous. I've never laughed at a single thing he's said or done.

Georgia:          Really? Okay.

Jessica:            I don't like him. So you like Jim Carrey? Okay. But this is the point. It's interpretive, right?

Georgia:          [crosstalk]. Right.

Jessica:            It's stupid. So, instead, what you want to do is, "We share a sense of humor. We make each other laugh."

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            You see the difference?

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Okay. So you want to think about a dynamic. It's not, "We never fight," because if you never fight, then that's ridiculous. Couples fight.

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            So it's, "We share values around how to fight fair. I don't scare him, and he doesn't scare me. When I say we are both honest, he means the same thing by honesty as I do," kind of thing. You want to really think about dynamic, not just "We have good sex." It's, "We have similar appetites around sex," or, "We're sexually compatible."

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            Right? So I want you to think about dynamic. And then, whenever you think of it, you write it down, and then you fold the piece of paper so you can't reread what you wrote. And then, at some point, you can pull out this piece of paper when you feel it. You're just going to feel a sense of knowing in your body. You're going to wait for that sense of knowing. If it doesn't come for a long time—I did this once. It didn't come for like 11 months. It drove me—I was waiting for this feeling, and it never came until it came.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            And so you don't want to rush it. But then what you're going to do is, when you feel it, when something shifts inside of you, you take out that piece of paper or those many pieces of paper, and you bring out a highlighter. And you highlight out everything that you've repeated multiple times in different words, because those things are the most important things to you, even if you don't think they are.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            Okay? And then you rewrite it with greater tidiness and clarity and all that kind of stuff. And you get really clear about what you're looking for in a partnership. So you're not going to figure that out date 3 or date 8.

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            Right? But you are going to figure out, "Oh, wow, we clearly don't agree on what respectful conduct is. Oh, wow, we clearly"—you can start being process of elimination if things are going sideways so you don't waste your time.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            Okay. Before I move on, does this leave you with questions about men?

Georgia:          I always have questions about them.

Jessica:            Who doesn't? Truly. Truly.

Georgia:          But it's just it's been so long, it's just like this anxiety about getting back out there. But I like taking the pressure off of myself. That's going to make it easier, I think.

Jessica:            Yeah. I would even—if you can reframe it, you're not getting back out there. You're practicing having boundaries. You're just practicing getting to know people.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            You're not looking for a boyfriend. You're looking for experiences that can lead you to new opportunities. Let it be wider, you know?

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            If you can. And listen. It's still going to be scary. It's still dating. It's still men. It's scary.

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            It's intimate. And if this was easy for you, you would have already done it. But here's the thing. Uranus started to square your Sun in the seventh house. It started in June of 2025, and you were feeling it through November.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            It's in a little bit of a remission right now, but it comes back for you in the spring, in March/April time. And then you'll be in it for a good, long while. Now, if in that 2025 period you were not changing the way you relate to close friends and men, then it was taking a lot of strength for you to not change. So, in that time frame in 2025, is that when you were with the matchmaker?

Georgia:          No.

Jessica:            Okay.

Georgia:          No.

Jessica:            And were you flirting with anyone, friends or dates?

Georgia:          2025, no.

Jessica:            Okay. Were you extra feeling stuck and extra depressed at that time?

Georgia:          I would say yes, and I forced myself to—I went on a solo road trip and just explored nature.

Jessica:            Okay.

Georgia:          I had this checklist of places that I wanted to go, so I just did that, and just more travel, too. I went out of the country, too. So that's what I did during that time.

Jessica:            That's great. Okay. That's really great. What you did was consistent with the energetics of the transit.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            Uranus squaring your Sun wanted you to try out new parts of yourself. The problem is you already know how to be in nature, and you already know how to be alone. And so I'm not saying what you did was wrong, because it absolutely was right. It was great. But you are being forced—and I'm going to use the word "forced" to confront, are your goals truly your goals if you take no steps towards them?

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            Yeah. And this is a really hard thing, and it gets harder as we age. I believe—based on what you're saying, but also, I see it in your energy field so strongly—you do want more intimacy. You do want closeness. You don't want 700 friends, but you would like a close person and a person you're really comfortable with who maybe is not as close—just a couple people.

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            You would like a man who you're just like, "Oh, this is my best friend who's like my partner." You would love those things. But your actions don't betray it. Your actions don't reflect it. And so I'm going to be really annoying and tell you to text the friends that you like because you have friends you like; is that correct?

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Okay. So I'm going to give you this really annoying homework to text them and be like, "Hey. I miss you. Let us meet and go to this art opening or take this walk," or there's—I don't know where you live and what weather is like, but "do this thing." Or, if they are long distance, say, "Do you ever hang out over Zoom or FaceTime? Let's talk. I want to catch up."

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            Can you do those things?

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Okay. And that's not going to magically fix anything, because it's adult lives and all that kind of stuff. But again, what I'm talking about is breaking up this lactic acid. So okay. In regards to love and friendship, when you look for relationships as a way to kind of escape yourself or you look for love and relationships as a way to focus on them so you don't really have to focus on you—which I guess is the same thing as escaping yourself—they backfire on you.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            When I look at your chart, what you truly desire and what will really work for you is mutually supportive relationships. The example I used earlier of you want somebody who doesn't just talk about themselves, but asks questions—but you also don't want to be a person who asks questions and never talks about themselves.

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            Okay? So it's about this balance. I do firmly feel that you can have friendships you feel good about. I'm not saying anything is perfect, because literally nothing is perfect—but friendships you feel good about. And I do see that dating is a real option for you. Not everybody dates. Not everybody gets into partnerships. That's realistic.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            But I actually think you're very down to do the work of partnership. You just get really overinvested in security, and dating is inherently deeply insecure.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            You know what I mean? There's no way to be stable and to date because who fucking knows what's going to happen?

Georgia:          Right. Yeah.

Jessica:            So prioritizing creating change and leaving room for things to emerge, whether it's by dating or it's in a relationship being like, "Okay. This was good for six months, and now I'm not happy. I'm willing to change in order to get a happier life," and ending it—whatever it is, nurturing your life requires you to take some risks.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            And you've gotten out of the habit.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Yeah. Yeah. You tell me, do we stay with love and friends, or do we shift over to work and writing?

Georgia:          We can shift to work and writing.

Jessica:            Okay. Okay. So I'm assuming you're doing customer service just to pay the bills.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            Okay. My question for you is, how can I be helpful in regards to work stuff?

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            What's your questions there?

Georgia:          So, with that, it's like I'm secure, but my fear is that I'm maybe too comfortable.

Jessica:            Yeah.

Georgia:          And I've seen what the burnout for this particular institution—what it does to people. And I don't want to end up like them, so—

Jessica:            How long have you been there?

Georgia:          It's been ten years.

Jessica:            Oh, damn. Okay.

Georgia:          It's interesting because the same time I started having the dating issues is when I started this job. I like to blame it all on the job, but no.

Jessica:            Interesting. Will you say the name of the company?

Georgia:          [redacted].

Jessica:            And the name of your role?

Georgia:          [redacted].

Jessica:            Oh. So this is a very secure position. You're not going to get laid off or fired. It's quite secure of a role.

Georgia:          Exactly. People don't leave.

Jessica:            Yep. Yep, yep, yep, yep. Got it, got it, got it, got it. Okay. This is what I'm seeing. You don't like this fucking job. That's real. It pulls on skills that you have, and it doesn't leave room for growth and expansion and experimentation and all these other things that make things interesting.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            And it's also not your biggest problem. Didn't expect me to say that.

Georgia:          No.

Jessica:            No, you didn't. No, you didn't. It's secure. It's stable.

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            And what I'm encouraging you to do is challenge your biggest insecurities around instability, around saying to friends, "Hey, should we hang out?" or going out on dates or flirting with guys. That stuff destabilizes you so wildly—so wildly. And I actually think there's something really nice about having a part of your life that—it offers you no surprises.

Georgia:          Oh.

Jessica:            If you're actually doing that work. The problem is you took this job at this moment where you were like, "I'm at an age. I'm doing the thing." And you just decided to be 55 years old when you were 30.

Georgia:          Oh my gosh.

Jessica:            Am I wrong, though?

Georgia:          No, you're not.

Jessica:            No, I'm not. No, I'm not. And so, yeah, now that you're in your early 40s, you're like, "The fuck? I have so many years."

Georgia:          Exactly.

Jessica:            Exactly. Exactly. So it's time for you to leave this job alone. It's fine. Who fucking care—you know what I mean? It's not great. And if I wasn't encouraging you to do this truly terrifying stuff for you, I would be like, "Okay. Well, let's talk about how can you change it?" or whatever. But this is not your biggest problem. It is your biggest annoyance. It's not your biggest problem. Do you know what I mean?

Georgia:          Okay. Yes.

Jessica:            In fact, let's say you had this job that drones on, and you were actively writing in ways that brought you joy—we'll get there in a minute—and you were dating somebody you really liked, and your friendships were good. Then I'd be like, "We need to talk about this fucking job." But if all those things were happening for you, I think the job wouldn't get better, but it also wouldn't take up so much of your life.

Georgia:          Okay. Oh.

Jessica:            Do you see what I'm saying?

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            Because what's happening now is that the compromise is really good on some levels. You go in. You do your thing, and you get out. And you have security and stability at a time when so many people don't.

Georgia:          Right. Yes.

Jessica:            And you love that.

Georgia:          Yeah. Yeah.

Jessica:            I mean, come on. I see your chart. You love that. You love that. And so what I'm interested in is how much would this job really fucking bug you if you had those other things flowing? The desire to change the job—it's actually the thing that's working—in a way, it's working best. I'm not saying the job is well suited to you. It's not. But it's like you're making a really conscientious trade. "I'm going to give you my energy, and you're going to give me this money." And there is actually an agreement there.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            The question I wonder about the people who are stuck, stuck, stuck at your job, is if their lives are stuck in addition to the job, like if they're unhappy outside of work and they're unhappy in work and there's no motivation to leave, life gets rough. And I think that—yeah, I'm not saying don't change your job. I'm saying, on our list, that's the bottom of the list—

Georgia:          Wow.

Jessica:            —because it's the most functional of the things.

Georgia:          Got it. Yeah.

Jessica:            Does that make sense?

Georgia:          That makes a lot of sense.

Jessica:            Yeah.

Georgia:          And I haven't thought of it like that.

Jessica:            This is honestly—one of the very common things I see when I give people readings is—you know, the older you get, the more problems you have. Let's say we got five problems, and then there's one problem that's just chugging away. It doesn't actually take a lot of energy and effort. That's the first one we want to fix.

Georgia:          Oh, wow.

Jessica:            It's the thing that we feel the most competent with because you've gotten jobs before. You know how to get a job. It triggers insecurities, because it does, of course. But it doesn't trigger intimacy issues or identity issues, right?

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            So it's like the thing that you know how to change more than—I don't know—men. What? Men? What? That is harder for you.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            So I would actually say let's leave the job alone and talk about writing.

Georgia:          Mm-hmm.

Jessica:            Okay. And are you a creative writer?

Georgia:          I am.

Jessica:            And is it a novel? Are you—

Georgia:          Television.

Jessica:            Oh, it's TV. You're working on something right now, eh?

Georgia:          It's screen—like feature and TV—yes. Both.

Jessica:            Okay. And is this something you are doing for—you're getting paid by TV people, or are you working on it now?

Georgia:          I'm working on it, working towards it, and then indie stuff.

Jessica:            Great. But there's a project you're working on right now?

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            I'm doing this with—

Georgia:          It's collaborative.

Jessica:            Is it collaborative? I'm just doing this because I keep on seeing it's like you have a lot of writing.

Georgia:          Yes. I do have a few projects I'm working on right now.

Jessica:            Okay. And one of them—it's maybe in a rural place?

Georgia:          Maybe [redacted].

Jessica:            Okay. That feels closer. This feels closer to me. And this one—it's like people connected to people connected to people.

Georgia:          Exactly.

Jessica:            Okay.

Georgia:          More concentrated.

Jessica:            Okay.

Georgia:          And personal, too.

Jessica:            Okay. And this story is like—this is you; this is your writing, correct?

Georgia:          Absolutely. Yeah.

Jessica:            Okay. Okay. So this project is so strong. My question is, you have contacts? Do you have an agent?

Georgia:          I don't have an agent.

Jessica:            Yeah.

Georgia:          I do have people working in the industry. They've had success. And of course, we've grown apart as they've become more successful.

Jessica:            Okay. That is a thing that happens. Yes, yes, yes.

Georgia:          But I do have—you know, I have contacts in the industry.

Jessica:            A couple things.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Reconnect. Reconnect is one thing. The other thing is I'm seeing you don't need advice about your writing, because you have a good writing practice. You really love writing.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            There are times when it doesn't flow, because fucking writing, but when it flows, it just comes out of you. It's just like you're prolific, eh?

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Yeah. Pluto is sitting on top of your Mercury. It's a once-in-a-lifetime event. It doesn't happen to everybody.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            And let me give you the start date. February 11th.

Georgia:          Wow.

Jessica:            And it's a two-year period. And in your birth chart, Mercury is in the sixth house. This can coincide with—basically, this transit intensifies your thinking, and it can intensify your writing. It can represent a time where you get deeper within your friendships, you deepen your connections with people, and also where you achieve some kind of power for your writing, like some sort of acclaim or success for your writing.

Georgia:          Okay. Awesome.

Jessica:            It can also be a time where you sit around and you obsess, and you think about things, and you don't do shit, and you make yourself feel bad.

Georgia:          I don't want that.

Jessica:            No, we don't want that. And this is part of why I wanted to focus on giving you instructions with dating. Change energy. Do not think that dating and writing are separate. It's all you. It's you. It's how you allow for flow to function in your life, how you participate in generating energy and the energy for possibility, right?

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            Writing isn't your problem. It's getting your writing in the right hands. It's connecting with people so that they see the writing.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            That's your problem, right? And it's good for you to never tell yourself your problem has anything to do with writing. It has nothing to do with writing.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            And I do also want to invite you to play with what is the easiest way, where is there flow, with—not your writing, but getting it in people's hands? Because the writing industry is so fucked. I don't need to tell you, right? It's so fucked.

Georgia:          I know.

Jessica:            It's awful. It's awful. It's really hard to get a book published and to have anyone see it, and it's really hard to—there's seven million hoops to jump through to get a screenplay out there and purchased, and then have it made is another 1,200 hoops, right?

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            It's like fucking—it's a thing. And also, you are in a once-in-a-lifetime period where there's a lot of potential for you to deepen your connections and expand your field of influence, which means, more simply and more practically, you should talk to people. You should connect with people. You should put your shit out there. Put your shit out there.

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            You can keep writing, writing, writing, writing, writing, writing, and you can write the greatest American novel or screenplay, and if nobody sees it, then—you know what I mean? The writing itself is its own reward, but you do want your writing to be—

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            —interacting with people, right?

Georgia:          Yeah. Yeah.

Jessica:            Okay.

Georgia:          I think I struggle with where my energy should go, like should it go towards getting a manager or an agent or just networking?

Jessica:            This is a good question. I've heard lots of people say don't get an agent. It's a racket. I've heard lots of people say a manager can't really negotiate a contract for you, and it puts you in a position. And also, what you struggle with is shyness and follow-through.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            And therefore, an agent is what you would probably need. And whatever cut they take and whatever bullshit it is is worth it to you, right? So it's not about this being a good thing or a bad thing. It's like some people don't need that kind of advocate, but I actually think that would be great for you to have an advocate, somebody who's like, "I believe in your writing. I'm going to shop it around. I'm going to take meetings on your behalf, and then I'm going to take 20 percent of the $15 they give you when they buy it." Right? But that is actually—getting those $15, which is an insult—right?—is better than nobody seeing the work.

Georgia:          This is true. Yeah.

Jessica:            Yeah. And so I actually would say an agent is likely the best thing for you.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            But let me just double-check it by looking energetically. I'm going to have you say your full name out loud.

Georgia:          Okay. [redacted].

Jessica:            I think you'll do better with a woman representing you. I do think having someone represent you would be a great idea, and I don't think it's the only way forward.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            Okay? So it's not like you have to have it, but it does look worth it for you.

Georgia:          An agent?

Jessica:            Mm-hmm.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            And if you find a manager who seems equal to an agent—the one thing that I do know, though, is that agents take a higher cut, but they also have the legal ability to negotiate a contract on your behalf, whereas a manager doesn't, I think.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            And if I'm looking at your chart correctly, you don't want to be fucking negotiating contracts.

Georgia:          No.

Jessica:            No. That is not on your list. Not on your list.

Georgia:          [crosstalk].

Jessica:            So I would actually say agent looks great if you can get one. They're notoriously ridiculously hard to get, but if you have connections, it might be worth it to take meetings. And listen. Your writing is ready. Do not do that fucking thing where you get weird and perfectionistic, and a friend—

Georgia:          Oh my gosh.

Jessica:            Yeah, I see you. And a friend is like, "Let me make a connection," and you're like, "But I'm not ready yet. Give me seven months." Don't do that.

Georgia:          Oh my gosh.

Jessica:            Your writing is ready. Your writing is ready.

Georgia:          Okay. I'll receive it. Yes. Okay.

Jessica:            Yeah. Receive it. And guess what. If a manager or an agent or a friend who's looking at your work sees your work and you say to them, "This is not a final draft," they will all know what those words mean.

Georgia:          Yeah.

Jessica:            The whole point is that you are willing to get feedback. Being a perfect writer is not the goal. Being a writer who's open to good feedback is a great goal. And any agent or manager or friend is going to know that, because even I know that and you know that.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Okay. Okay. I'm going to tell you something.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            You really do want happiness and love, and you do want your writing to be out there and for you to even be able to just sit down and write and have that be your career, like, the way you make money. And also, I see you doing—you ever watch The Flintstones?

Georgia:          Yes, I remember.

Jessica:            Okay. So you remember how his feet go backwards and then go fast, fast, fast backwards, but they go in the wrong direction from his body?

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Yeah. You're doing that a lot.

Georgia:          Uh-oh.

Jessica:            You're doing that a lot.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            Your fear, your insecurity—it's just—you've gotten too comfortable with it. You've started treating it like wisdom.

Georgia:          Oh, wow.

Jessica:            And so I want to challenge you to let 2026 be a year where you acknowledge that—I mean, everything's fucking terrifying. You already know that.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            I don't need to tell you that. Everything's terrifying. And so part of navigating this fucked-up country and this fucked-up world—I also want to encourage you to choose to engage intentionally with your fear. When it comes to fear of success or fear of love or fear of friendship or fear of vulnerability, choose it. Choose it because you're going to be scared anyways.

Georgia:          This is true.

Jessica:            I mean, everything's fucked up anyways. Might as well try, you know?

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Not because I'm promising you that everything will work out, because it's like a strange cocktail of choices and fate and things that are out of your control and things that are in your control. But I do see that you are somebody with a huge amount of power. You just have this habit you've developed of using your power to tamp yourself down. So, even when you take these magical, enviable trips that you take—and they do look magical and enviable, very much so. But even when you're taking these trips, you're tamping yourself down in it. You're not putting yourself in situations that you're not willing to navigate if they go get more exciting than you're ready for.

Georgia:          Could you elaborate on the last part that you said?

Jessica:            Yeah. When I look at these adventures, you take these kind of wild adventures. You're not playing it safe. But the risks you're taking around navigating the world, around navigating groups, around navigating nature, even navigating a road trip, like your car and fucking America or whatever, wherever you're traveling—those things—they do not pressure your intimacy issues at all.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            They have nothing to do with your intimacy issues. They have to do with your ability to navigate unpleasant social situations or your ability to protect yourself or your ability to hide or to shy—these things, whereas things that you're truly scared of—they require you to show up and be vulnerable and truly true to who you are. That's what you're hiding from. So you take these adventures, but there's no real risk of the cultivation of intimacy. I mean, I guess it is possible that you could meet a man and have feelings, but I'm assuming there's a lot of women who go on these trips.

Georgia:          Yes, mostly women.

Jessica:            Mostly women. Yeah. I mean, that tracks for what it is. And it is part of why it's safe and why it's fin, right?

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            Again, I'm not critiquing the trips. I'm saying you're brave, but not in this way. You're brave in that way.

Georgia:          Right. I get it.

Jessica:            So I'm not saying stop being brave in that way. Keep being brave. That's exciting—but to recognize that by the time you hit 40, 45—whatever—there's only so many things you can be really good at. By any age, there's only so many things you can be really good at. And we develop habits of where we stop cultivating skills and taking risks. This is why people get stuck in their mid-age.

Georgia:          Okay. Yeah.

Jessica:            And the place you've gotten stuck is around intimacy.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            And I wouldn't say cultivating connections around writing is intimacy, except for for you it is because your writing is so personal.

Georgia:          Mm-hmm.

Jessica:            And so it taps into those intimacy issues in a way that it wouldn't if you were—I don't know—a technical writer and looking for a job as a technical writer or something, right? It wouldn't trigger it in the same way.

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            Yeah. Yeah. You have the capacity to change. You do. And if you change, your life will change, and not automatically an overnight, and not necessarily even easily. But this is a period of your life where you're clear-hearted about what you want.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Now you've just got to take uncomfortable steps to shifting the energy so that there's room for what you want to come through.

Georgia:          Yes. Okay.

Jessica:            Did that make sense?

Georgia:          It makes a lot of sense.

Jessica:            Good. Well, my dear, I think we hit the points.

Georgia:          Yes.

Jessica:            Is there a final question related to what we're talking about?

Georgia:          I mean, a part of me is excited to take the risk. The other is terrified.

Jessica:            Yeah. That's perfect. That's your best-case scenario. Acting in spite of your fear is the goal, not to be without fear. It is unrealistic for you to not experience fear when it comes to intimacy stuff. It's just not realistic. If you weren't scared, you would have already been doing all this stuff, right?

Georgia:          Right.

Jessica:            Yeah. So the goal isn't to be fearless. The goal is to act in spite of your fear and to be mindful of when you start to abandon yourself, right?

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            Let's not forget that moment that happened at the beginning of our conversation where I asked you something that was hard for you, and you froze and pulled back from yourself. That process is something for you to try to catch yourself in because you do it a lot, and it has a cumulative impact in your life.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            So that's a thing to look out for. Are you in talk therapy?

Georgia:          Yes, I am.

Jessica:            Bring that to your shrink.

Georgia:          Abandoning myself?

Jessica:            Yeah, but not just abandoning yourself. Freezing and then abandoning yourself. Pulling back.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            And feel free to say to your shrink, "I got a reading where I talked to this person, and they said that I did this. Do you think I do this? Let's unpack it." The thing that therapy has over what I do is the weekly, the repetitive meeting with somebody and talking about it, you framing it in your words. This is so powerful. This is how integrated change happens. So, yeah, struggle with the idea. Disagree with me all you like. But work with this idea because I think it's an important part of creating more flow and energy in your life.

Georgia:          Okay.

Jessica:            All right. Well, there's your reading, my dear.

Georgia:          Thank you so much. I appreciate you. Appreciate the reading.