Love Lanyadoo Astrology 02.13-19.2019
It’s Valentine's Day on the 14th, and that means you’re likely being inundated with messages about how you should prove your love, what your love should look like, and how two hearts are better than one. The truth is that there are a million ways to love and just as many ways that a successful relationship between consenting adults can look. Don’t compare yourself to others, sweethearts. Your happiness or misery is yours alone, and it's not constructed better or worse than anyone else’s. Astrology teaches that life happens in cycles – wherever you’re at in yours is temporary. This doesn’t mean that bad (or good) things will befall you, only that life is always changing. Make space in your heart for the best possible changes, and then align your actions with your desires.
(aka Pro Tips for love):
• Don’t love another person at your own expense.
• Expect as many games as you're willing to play; you set the standards in your life, in part by what you're willing to participate in and how you're willing to play.
• Your boundaries are yours to maintain. Everything that others do is simply them revealing themselves to you – it’s your job to listen and to respond wisely.
• No one is supposed to manage your needs for you, and no one is more responsible for your happiness than you are.
• Love is not a cure-all or a magic bullet. It’s requires action, work, and openness.
• Wherever you’re at in your life, know that the foundation to your love relationships comes from within, so if you don’t love where you’re at, start with that all-important relationship first.
On the 18th two transits will be exact as Venus forms a conjunction to Saturn in Capricorn, and Mercury is conjunct to Neptune in Pisces. The former can make you feel acutely aware of the ways you feel lonely, or it can inspire you to focus on what isn’t working in your relationships. The latter transit creates overwhelm and anxiety, making this a pretty terrible combination. There’s a high risk that you’ll fixate on what brings you pain instead of seeking answers or even peace. The best things to do around this date are related to nurturance and self-care. Fortify yourself by feeding yourself, not starving yourself out. This is a terrible time for tough love or powering through things as a way to cope. Instead, take simple and practical steps towards being present. You don’t need to fix anything or figure things out; just tend to your feelings by honoring them with kindness.
On the 19th we have a Full Moon at 0°42’ of Virgo at 7.54aPT. Full Moons happen when the Sun and Moon are exactly opposite to each other in the sky, and when they occur, we have a powerful opportunity to clear away what needs to go so that we can create space for what we want next. Pay attention to your body and the ways in which it houses your emotions. This particular Full Moon may find you questioning what’s real and struggling to identify your next moves. Watch your impulses so that you don’t act out of emotion or without consideration for the consequences. Acting from a place of ego will backfire on you, so try to be mindful of how you’re feeling defensive. Don't lash out from that place. It’s time to be the change you wish to see in your life and in the world, my loves.
March 21-April 19
Start or stop? Stay or go? This week will present you with options, and if you are feeling stressed, it'll feel like you’re stuck between extremes. It’s not a weakness to ask for help or perspective, Aries. If you’re feeling really uncertain, find the approach that allows for the greatest flexibility, for now at least. You’re not meant to have things all worked out right now; it's time for adjusting yourself on the path, not arriving at your destination.
April 20-May 20
Love is powerful and beautiful, but it requires work. When you put yourself out there, it can be beautiful and scary and wonderful and crushing – but it’s still worth it, Taurus. Don’t let your fear of what might go wrong stop you from making things right. Don’t stop loving, Taurus. You may have to let go of some attitude, habit, or even relationship in order to honor the love that you're capable of – do it. Find ways of loving that fill you up this week.
May 21-June 21
Do you see that? There’s finally a break in the clouds, Twin Star. Things have been rough for you, and it has tested your faith. This week will provide opportunities to you, and if you seize them, you’ll be so much better for it. Do your utmost to divorce yourself from the actions, attitudes, and dynamics that have made you miserable or kept you stuck in neutral. You're ready for action, but it’s on you not to repeat the mistakes you’ve just recovered from.
June 22-July 22
It’s time to listen to your heart, Moonchild, but you’re stretched so thin that it’s unlikely you know what that means right now. Replenish yourself this week by unplugging, slowing down, and generally taking on just a little bit less. When you don’t feel right with yourself, it’s tempting to overthink things or to act from a defensive place – both of which will get you in major trouble this week. Strive to clarify your boundaries before you do anything else, my love.
July 23-Aug. 22
Other people’s attraction to you can be quite seductive, but it’s not enough to make you happy. This is an excellent time to take chances with your heart but not without some forethought. Find yourself before you go looking for meaning in somebody else, Leo. Prioritize your truth above validation or feedback. You are strong and capable, and it’s about time you believed in yourself, independent of the reassurances of others.
Aug. 23-Sept. 22
Feeling uncomfortable or hurt can drive you to distract yourself or try to seek solutions. It’s the one time of year that the Moon is full in your sign, and this comes with a powerful chance to not only better know yourself but to finally let something that’s time has come, go. Don’t be in such a rush to figure things out that you tumble right past the answers; get grounded before you get going, Virgo.
Sept. 23-Oct. 22
Don’t let your fear of being hurt stop you from letting love in, Libra. In the words of Jeanette Winterson, “you play, you win, you play, you lose. You play. It’s the playing that’s irresistible. Dicing from one year to the next with the things you love, what you risk reveals what you value.” It’s time to honor your potential by exploring what you care most deeply about and what you’re doing to invest in it. You don’t need certainty; you only need courage, my love.
Oct. 23-Nov. 21
This week can mark a meaningful shift in your connections, but you have a big say in how that’ll go. When you're feeling good, it’s easy to show up for others, but when you’re a mess, it’s just as easy to forget that your loves have needs to. Make sure that you’ve not gotten so wrapped up in your own trials and turnarounds that you’ve forgotten to do the little things that add up over time. Love is an action, so giddy-up, Scorpio.
Nov. 22-Dec. 21
That you need change is a certainty, but everything else is up in the air. Instead of scrambling to find the answer, take a breather and practice being more receptive, Sagittarius. You’re unlikely to need more information in order to make an informed decision. Reflect on the data that you do have, and trust your instincts. Your feelings are valid, but you’ve got to quiet your internal chatter enough to be able to make sense of them.
Dec. 22-Jan. 19
It’s totally fair that you want stability – you are a Capricorn after all. This week marks a time of growth and development that is bound to shake you up. Instead of taking your doubts and insecurities at face value, do the work needed to better understand what’s motivating them. Change is scary, and when you’ve got something you love, you’ve got something to lose. Count your blessings and honor your heart without overindulging your fears, my love.
Jan. 20-Feb. 18
Looking for problems will not help you this week. It’s too easy to see what’s wrong with a person, a situation, or even yourself. Look at all that you have to be grateful for, and celebrate how far you’ve come, Aquarius. Get a broader perspective so that you can see things in a way that allows you to comprehend the big picture and not just its parts. Love is all around you, but you have to be willing to receive it, my love.
Feb. 19-March 20
With the Full Moon in your relationship house on the 19th, you can expect some meaningful developments in your close connections. Make sure that you don’t project your fears or suspicions onto others, especially when you could just ask them what’s going on. This week will give you opportunities for growth, but it’ll require you be brave enough to grab them. Whenever you have the choice, choose love, dear Pisces.