💖 Love Horoscope September 2017

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Congratulations, friends! You made it through the emotions introduced by August's eclipses and now it’s time to integrate those intense vibes into your life. If September had a theme, it would be "Getting Real with Virgo Vibes." This month's love horoscope is all about the truth: Don’t avoid realness in an effort to keep things chill because it won’t work. If you can’t be yourself in your relationships, then chances are good you’re in the wrong relationships. Get real to get whole, and your happiness will organically flow from there. Don’t be scared of change. It’s the only constant in life that you can rely on. Commit to making sure that the changes you’re implementing promote the life you wanna live. Now read on for your individual love horoscope and see what those changes might look like for you.

Written originally for Glamour

 

 

ARIES
March 21-April 19

Try not to take anything on this month that’s not directly connected to what you're already doing. What you’re going through now is stressful, and it’s important that you have enough self-control to pace yourself through it all so that when you show up, you can show all the way up, Aries. Instead of worrying over your limitations, it’s time to confront them directly—especially after Mercury goes direct on the 5th. The truth is that if you let your fear of failing direct you, there are so many things you won’t try and then you'll never get to be better at them. Approach your goals and your relationships with clarity of intent this month.

 

 

TAURUS
April 20-May 20

You’re changing and it’s not easy, even if it is important and for the better. Yours is a sensual sign, and that doesn’t mean that you’ll make sweet love to everyone you like: It means that you have delicate senses and are highly motivated by them. This month, there is healing and generative power in getting actively involved, Taurus. Get your hands dirty, whether that means actively putting yourself “out there,” actively engaging in more self-care, or just spending more time with people and things that you’re excited about. When you can find a slice of life to enjoy, grasp it with both hands.

 

 

GEMINI
May 21-June 21

You’re changing and it ain’t easy. This month, you’re on blast from the Universe to walk your talk and put your money where your adorbable mouth is, Twin Star. Instead of wishing, it’s time to start planning—and if you’ve got plans, it’s important that you follow through with them. The happiness that you can have in life is directly related to what you do. If you invest your time and energy into people, dynamics, and conditions that don’t bring you joy, the odds are not really in your favor. To find your flow, you may have to shake things up or reconnect with the parts of your life that make you excited to be alive.

 

 

CANCER
June 22-July 22

You’re complicated and that’s why I love you, Moonchild! The question is, can you love yourself through your complexity? If you allow yourself to react to your feels and fears in a knee-jerk way, you can’t really know if you’re responding to the actual situation that you’re in or to the emotions that are being triggered. This month is a time when you need to confront your fears in order to truly understand what they’re made of. You can’t bring healing to a problem that you don’t properly understand, or one that you’ve labeled incorrectly. Be brave enough to dig a little deeper, my love.

 

 

LEO
July 23-Aug. 22

This is not the time to be looking outside of yourself for answers or validation. There is no “right” answer, just different choices with different consequences. Make sure that what you prioritize is reflected in your actions, Leo. If you want your relationships to be more intimate, you’ve got to start by showing all the way up. The problem is that going for what you really want is vulnerable, and takes a leap of faith. This is all well and good until you actually have to do it and your mind starts running through what-ifs. Act in ways that allow you to be right with your own self, and your confidence and clarity will organically emerge from there.

 

 

VIRGO
Aug. 23-Sept. 22

When you feel bad is when it’s easiest to justify acting out, but behaving without kindness to others is also like putting poison in the water: It affects you as much as the other guy. This month, your reactions are likely to be pretty fear-based, and that can pave the way for some interpersonal missteps. There’s often a big difference between how you feel and what’s going on for the people you’re close to or in your relationships. Don’t jump to conclusions or wage passive aggressive wars in reaction to something that you don’t truly know is happening. Talk out your feels, Virgo.

 

 

LIBRA
Sept. 23-Oct. 22

It’s time to integrate, Libra. There’s so many self-help tools, books, and memes to obsess on that you can end up becoming a self-improvement data collector, and never get much done. Take time this month to practice implementing the wisdom you’ve been collecting without adding too much more to your plate. You don’t need to isolate yourself to do this, but you may have to cut back on your habit of asking for input from others. Share your thoughts and feelings with your fam so that you’re still investing in your relationships, but it’s time to trust yourself, my love.

 

 

SCORPIO
Oct. 23-Nov. 21

You need perspective, and you need it bad, Scorpio. There’s so much happening in the world around you, as well as you in your inner world, and it would be all too easy to slip into a bad vibes hole. You’re a deep person and you need to be able to connect with others around the realness that you’re experiencing—or things can get a bit twisted up inside of you. Share your process with your loved ones this month, and trust them enough to let them help you have the shift in outlook you so sorely need.

 

 

SAGITTARIUS
Nov. 22-Dec. 21

Just because you can’t see what’s next, doesn’t mean that you’re in any way stalled, Sagittarius. This month, you’re being called to be strong. You are optimistic by nature, but the August Eclipses kicked some of your fearful thinking up and they need to be dealt with. You don’t need platitudes or quick fixes, you need the truth. When you have no proof of an uncertain future, dare to believe the best. When you run, make sure your running toward something you clearly want—instead of away from your fears, your past, and your feelings, my love.

 

 

CAPRICORN
Dec. 22-Jan. 19

Your relationships with both your friends and your sweetie need extra TLC this month. Who you love and how much energy and effort you devote to those connections is a reflection of your values. If you’ve been hiding your heart away from people, you are investing in your fear of vulnerability instead of your desire for love and connection. You don’t need to fix, heal, or otherwise better the people around you; just practice showing up. Be your most present and real self for those you care about, and leave room for them to do the same, Cappy.

 

 

AQUARIUS
Jan. 20-Feb. 18

It’s time to let go. If you’ve been thinking small or trying to hide from the facts, all you’ll succeed in doing is feeling anxious. You’ve been holding on too tightly to something (or someone), Aquarius. That thing that you’ve been running over and over in your mind needs a simple and unequivocal action on your part. This is the time to act—and stressful thoughts and feels be damned! Yours is a sign that resists change that you didn’t implement yourself; be patient with your emotional process without indulging your desire to stall your own progress this month.

 

PISCES
Feb. 19-March 20

Having healthy boundaries is messy work. You’ve got to juggle your needs, obligations, and limits and find a way to assert them. The thing you don’t get to do is expect your loved ones to be psychic (that’s my job!) and to divine your needs, or for anyone to uphold your boundaries for you. Model your needs by living in a way that reflects them, Pisces. En route to having a healthy ego and strong sense of self, you need to take risks: Don’t wait for a high quality of life to happen to you. Get out there and shake it up in the name of love this month.

 

XO

💖 Love Horoscope August 2017

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Written originally for Glamour

Hold on to your hats! This month is extra special because we have two big Eclipses happening. The first one is a New Moon Lunar Eclipse in Aquarius on the 7th, and the next is a Full Solar Eclipse in Leo on the 21st. Passions and defenses will be running high as intense emotions get triggered in just about everyone. Treat yourself and others with extra patience and kindness as your feels burn like wildfire, my lovers.

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ARIES

March 21-April 19

The best strategy for you to have this month is a big picture one, Aries.  The two Eclipses mean that everyone’s emotions are running high, and that can make for extra drama, if you’re not careful. Get ready for people to be extra confusing from the 12th onwards, because Mercury, the planet that rules communications, goes Retrograde, and makes misunderstandings very possible. Power struggles are likely to emerge mid-month when tender Venus opposes obsessive Pluto. Fighting is not necessarily a bad thing in a healthy relationship, but pick your battles wisely. Stand up for what you believe in without being punishing or overly defensive, my love.

 

 


TAURUS

April 20-May 20

Get ready to feel all the feels, because both of August’s Eclipses (on the 7th and 21st) are going to hit you deeply. How you experience and process your feelings and then take care of your self around them is everything this month. There’s so much lunar activity that you’re likely to feel saturated, and that will make it hard to tell what you need from what you want, even though the difference is so very important. As you grow, you’ll inevitably have to outgrow some things, Taurus. Instead of seeking to make your life or relationships more secure, challenge yourself to make them more whole. Be the change you want to see in your life, Taurus, especially when it’s hard.

 

 

GEMINI

May 21-June 21

Your ruling planet goes Retrograde on the 12th, and this is likely to make you feel a little bit off kilter as communication goes off the rails. At the same time we’re in Eclipse season and that means that you and everyone else will feeling weird because as emotions feel urgent and intense. This is a great time to reflect on the trends in your personal life and not so much a good one for processing it with the ones you love. It’s important you make sure that your life is moving in the direction that you intend it to, so check in with your heart of hearts to make sure this happens. This isn’t the time for stability – make it a time for sincere growth, Gemini.

 

 

CANCER

June 22-July 22

Your ruling planet is the Moon and she’s about to be so busy this month that you’re gonna feel like you're standing on a rocky boat and it’s hard to keep your balance. While you’re going to be extra emotional these days, that isn’t a bad thing if you’re willing to work with it. Don’t run from the complexity, Moonchild; the Eclipses want you to step into it. Strive to make peace with your feels – the good, the bad, and the messy, my love. By the middle of August you may have to deal with some serious relationship drama; try to concern yourself only what’s happening in the here and now, as tempting as it may be to try to tie everything to the past. The present moment needs you, lover.

 

 

LEO

July 23-Aug. 22

Honor your feels. The very emotionally poignant Solar Eclipse on the 21st will function like an extra powerful New Moon in your sign, and the Full Moon on the 7th in your relationship house is going to bring up big relationship issues. Look out for themes in your close relationships this month, as they are bound to reflect issues that have been long lurking beneath the surface. Who you choose to be is up to you – don’t excuse your own behavior by comparing it to anyone else’s, no matter how much you want to. Instead of trying to fix your dynamics with others, strive to better understand what’s motivating you to act in the ways you do. This is a time for deep and lasting healing, if you’re up for the task.

 

 

VIRGO

Aug. 23-Sept. 22

There’s no getting around your feels, Virgo. This month is going to trigger some old emotional baggage that you’ve been unsure of how to deal with. It’s important to stay attentive to your feelings without acting on them quite yet, though. Your ruling planet goes Retrograde on the 12th, and that reinforces the need for you to look within instead of seeking to create answers. This potent emo period will test your ability to know the difference between a current day trauma and a trigger to some back in the day hurt. Don’t weave narratives to match your feels, no matter how tempting it is to make stories out of your feelings; it’s OK to be uncomfortable as you grow, my love.

 

 

 

LIBRA

Sept. 23-Oct. 22

It’s time for some big-picture changes, Libra. If you’re not excited about where your life is headed or what you’re doing these days, the Eclipses on the 7th and 21st will bring about opportunities to change things up. By the 15th you’re going to have to account for something that is intimidating to deal with; don’t resist confrontation when it can help you to be more authentic, even if it feels like drama. You may have to take personal risks that are a bit scary this month; make sure that they’re not lateral shifts. This isn’t time for you to phone it in - your values need to be reflected in the life you’re building, or it’s time to change the plan, my love.

 

 

SCORPIO

Oct. 23-Nov. 21

Consequences are catching up with you, and like it or not, you’ve got to answer to your past, Scorpio. This month’s Eclipses are going to make you feel your feels extra intensely, so it’s important that you’re gentle with yourself and others. Instead of seeking to attach blame or excuses to your problems, figure out what you need. Only then can you assess what you need in order to ease yourself through this period. There’s no limit to your potential, only to your willingness to take on the right kind of risks. Be brave this month, lover.

 

 

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22-Dec. 21

Watch what you say, Sagittarius! This month’s Eclipses will trigger intense feels and that can make you blurt things out without sufficient forethought. Your desires to get much closer to others or to pull all the way away are battling each other, and it’ll take real care to know what’s right for you. Try to stay connected to your truest feels instead of allowing yourself to get caught up in your immediate reactions. With all this lunar action and Mercury going Retrograde on the 12th, this is a great time to reflect and to reconsider things. You’re ready to move beyond dynamics that have long been holding you back, but it may take some temporary discomfort on your part. Be here for it.

 

  

CAPRICORN

Dec. 22-Jan. 19

You may be tempted to take on too much this month, but it’ll bite you in your sweet, sweet, behind if you do. August is all about the powerful tide of emotions that you and everyone else is riding with the two Eclipses on the 7th and the 21st. Feelings have a way of slowing things down because they don’t always follow your idea of how they should be, and that’s as it should be. While this will make your life more complicated than it’d otherwise be, it will also make it more real. Don’t allow yourself to become so overtaxed that you totally can’t cope. Prioritize your personal life and it’s needs, Capricorn, and build your empire on that happy foundation.

 

 

AQUARIUS

Jan. 20-Feb. 18

Between the Lunar Eclipse in your sign on the 7th and the Solar Eclipse in your relationship house on the 21st, this month you can expect your relationships to feel intense AF. It’s your time to rise to the occasion by showing up for the complicated emotional stuff, especially when things get messy. Other people’s emotions don’t have to make sense to be true, so don’t try to analyze what simply needs to be felt, heard, or respected, Aquarius. Your relationships need your heartfelt presence in order for them to grow into what they’re meant to be. You’re totally ready for this.

 

 

PISCES

Feb. 19-March 20

There are so many intense feels in the air this Eclipse season that it’s likely to spark a real sense of overload for you this month. Instead of distracting yourself, get real about what’s not working, versus where your anxieties are fixating. Don’t trust your most powerful emotions without investigation; the worst stuff is not necessarily the most true, even though it does tend to be the most compelling. There’s some pretty big changes coming for you, but if you’re disoriented and overwhelmed you won’t be able to handle them with grace. Get present, get calm, and then carry on, Pisces.

 

 

XO

 

💖 Love Horoscope July 2017

Written originally for Glamour

What's on the horizon for July? Beware of emotions running high as we gear up for Eclipse Season next month. The Full Moon in Capricorn on the 8th could mean some major power struggles, and a New Moon in Leo on the 23rd is the first of two New Moons in Leo this summer (the next one is on 8/23rd and is the Great American Eclipse). How you express your love is important; show all the way up this month, lovers! 

 

 

ARIES

March 21–April 19

This month is when things start to get hot, Aries. Passions will be running high throughout July and that can be awesome or super taxing, depending on your situation. The first week of the month is going to challenge you to stand up and hold your ground, but you may take that opportunity and run with it. Be wary of picking fights that are more about the struggle for power than the thing you’re actually talking about. The Full Moon on the 8th is going to make you extra defensive if you’re not careful, so prioritize whatever self-care you can manage so that you are able to act with integrity when the small stuff bugs you. If you try to repress things you’ll find that your relationships feel pretty bad around the 24th. This is a time for change, so be an active part of it, my love.

 

 

TAURUS

April 20–May 20

This month may kick off with you feeling extra agitated for no clear reason. Look to your connections with others for the reasons why; if you’re dealing with a breakup, you may find that you haven’t let go of the relationship, even if you feel hella over the person. The first half of July is an excellent time to get present. Honor whatever you feel by supporting yourself in the here and now. Things are likely to be very active for you this summer, so don’t let your self-care game get off track. Success without a healthy inner life is hard to enjoy; prioritize your insides in tandem with getting it all done this month, Taurus.

 

 

GEMINI

May 21–June 21

The first half of July is going to kick up thoughts, compulsions, and weird inner ticks of the past for you. When this happens, make sure that you pay attention to what’s triggering these reactions so you can get to healing them. The Full Moon on the 8th will be provocative, but not in a sexy way. Make sure that you don’t jump into conflict with people who won’t listen to you anyway, Twin Star. If you’re going to fight, fight for something, and not just to make noise. Around the 20th you’re likely to have a confrontation with what you hold dear. Make sure that your actions reflect your values.

 

 

CANCER

June 22-July 22

Sometimes there’s a fine line between standing your ground and picking a fight, and you’re about to find it, Moonchild. This month will bring intense energies to the surface that demand to be dealt with. Whether you have to contend with someone who won’t leave well enough alone, or you find that you’re the agitated one, be careful what you say and how you say it. Fight for what you believe in, but not just to prove your point. Others can disagree with you and that doesn’t have to diminish your perspective. Being able to accept differences that you can’t celebrate is a virtue that will get you out of lots of trouble this month.

 

 

LEO

July 23–Aug. 22

The start of July is an excellent time for doing dream work, as your subconscious is grappling with something that your conscious mind would rather not deal with. Take heart, Leo; you must be brave to honor your feels consistently—and the people you love deserve your consistency. On the 20th Mars enters your sign and that will give you the boost you need to assert yourself, but won’t do too much for introspectiveness. Make time for self-reflection before the New Moon in your sign on the 23rd. It’s going to require you to clarify your values and have them well reflected in your actions, even if it’s complicated. This year is rare in that we have two New Moons in your sign (the next will be the Great American Eclipse on August 21st). Step up to this powerful opportunity for emotional embodiment, my love.

 

 

VIRGO

Aug. 23–Sept. 22

Beware of enticing people from your past coming back around with the Full Moon on the 8th, Virgo. It’s on you to take care of your heart; if you chose not to remember why things didn’t work out the first time around, you’re just asking for trouble. The first half of this month is likely to bring up passions in all senses of the word—expect it to be hot and bothered, either really creative or really destructive. This is not the time to phone it in and jump in headfirst without considering the consequences. Love is a healing force, but lust isn’t. Make sure if you’re gunning for the latter, you don’t pay more than it’s worth.

 

 

LIBRA

Sept. 23–Oct. 22

Don’t worry so much about what others think that you ignore what’s going on in your own sweet noggin, Libra. This month, events will challenge you to own your perspective, but if you’re so focused on what everyone else is doing, that’s not gonna be possible. The Full Moon on the 8th is going to bring a lot of intensity to your personal life, and then it’s going pretty much continue through the 21st. Don’t patently avoid conflict; sometimes it’s totally necessary to clear the air and get to the truth. Chose your battles and your tactics wisely, because the consequences of your actions now will be felt for a long time to come.

 

 

SCORPIO

Oct. 23–Nov. 21

You have a bad reputation for being the Honey Badger of the zodiac, but in truth you really do care, Scorpio. The trouble is that you feel things so intensely that you can either shut down or come on too hard when emotions are high. Do your best to temper your reactions this month. That may require you to be a little more careful about the amount of time you spend with people—even those you love—so that you can do the things you need to do to be the best version of yourself. If conflicts emerge, be gentle with your anxiety levels, and beware of defensiveness. Some things are worth fighting for, and some things are better left alone.

 

 

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22–Dec. 21

Love isn’t all about being swept away; it takes time and effort. It’s easy to get distracted—there’s always so much going on! The problem is that if you don’t keep track of your commitments, you end up hurting people, no matter how innocent the mistakes feel. This month, it’s time to get organized. Catch up on your emails, arrange your calendar, and make sure you’re not overcommitted. Make sure that when you show up for others, you’re all in, and if you need time for yourself, be clear and communicative about it. Take care of the basics of your love life and let it flourish from there, Sagittarius.

 

 

CAPRICORN

Dec. 22–Jan. 19

There is so much going on for you this month that you need to be on your very best behavior, or you’ll get in all kinds of trouble, Capricorn. Your ego is in overdrive for the first week of this month, and that can turn you into a real pain in the buns if you’re not careful. Be as generous to others as you want them to be toward you. The Full Moon in your sign on the 8th is going to bring up feelings that you’ve been repressing, so know that dramas that emerge around this day have been a long time coming. Make sure that your impulse to be the biggest and the best with your goals doesn’t have a corrosive impact on your personal life. Seek balance this month, my love.

 

 

AQUARIUS

Jan. 20–Feb. 18

The New Moon in your relationship house on the 23rd marks the start of something special. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll meet someone new, but you might, and if you do, it’ll be hecka intense. Relationships that begin this month or next will play an important role in your development, so be on your very best behavior, my love. You may find yourself getting extra irritable from the 20th onwards; the best way to channel this energy is into activities that require a lot of effort, that make you sweat (if ya know what I mean), or that you can power through. Be open to surprises this month, Aquarius.

 

 

PISCES

Feb. 19–March 20

Creativity, love, and sex can transform your life or make you feel 50 shades of crazy this month. You may find yourself overwhelmed by other’s needs and not sure how to not get consumed by them, or you may find yourself in the throws of an all-out obsession. The time has come for you to take ownership of your limits and desires, and assert them firmly but kindly, my love. When you water down the truth, you’re basically saying that you don’t trust the other person to handle you. It’s time to face facts, even if they’re messy. The New Moon on the 23rd is going to give you a break from all of this intensity; use it as your time to prioritize self-care and to clarify where you’re at.

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💖 Love Horoscope June 2017

Written originally for Glamour

 

ARIES 🖤
March 21–April 19

Your impulses are going to be tested all throughout June, so it's important that you get your head on straight. Honor your self-care practices and your feels without asking others to validate them. Your sign loves attention, and that's OK—unless it's coming from a blindly self-preoccupied place. In that case, you're acting from a place within yourself that can't be satiated by anyone but you. Get right with your insides so that you don't ask for more from your relationships than is healthy. This month is going to bring all kinds of chaos to your love life if you're not careful, so watch what you say. You're entitled to all of the love in the world, but demanding it from others won't work out well for you. Practice having patience and self-reflection, my love.

 

 

TAURUS 🖤
April 20–May 20

You need your friends, Taurus. There's a singular kind of support and perspective that your platonic loves can yield, and now they need something from you: a bit of TLC. This month may have you facing some problems with your friendships, but it's nothing that you can't bring to healing with your heartfelt presence. You may need to refine your listening skills, especially around the 13th when it'll be way easier to tune out. Even when you don't see things the same way as someone else, you can always listen and be present for the other person's experience. It's OK to stand on different ground, even as you're standing with someone. Love isn't agreeing about everything; it's sticking around for the sticky stuff.

 

 

GEMINI 🖤
May 21–June 21

It's easy for you to get so caught up in your interests that you end up scattered and off. This month you need to make some choices so that you can be more effective with your energies, Twin Star. Whether you're off your self-care game, haven't shown your crew the love they deserve, or have forgotten to give your sweetie some much-needed attention, your work is the same: Show up. From the 12th to the 20th, you're likely to feel really messy, and that's when your relationships can fall through the cracks. If you can't be there for someone who needs you, that's OK, but don't ghost them. Own your limitations so that they don't actually limit you, my love. If you don't, it'll feel like everyone is coming for you in the last week of June. Devote yourself to the things and people that you care about, Gem.

 

 

CANCER 🖤
June 22–July 22

The Moon is New in your sign but once a year, and it's happening on the 23rd, Moonchild. This is a powerful opportunity to get in touch with your innermost personal life and to take stock of what is (and isn't) working for you. There's likely to be lots of growth and opportunity for drama leading up to that event, so get ready, love. From the 2nd through the 18th, there's so much going on in the sky that it's likely to impact all of your emotional relationships. Beware of projecting your issues on everyone else, and be willing to listen without defensively planning your rebuttal. You can lie to yourself or others, but that only keeps you stagnant, and ain't nobody got time for that. Step up and confront the dank dynamics in your life this month.

 

 

LEO 🖤
July 23–August 22

Confrontation has such negative connotations, but it's a powerful tool. You've been dealing head-on with your ego in recent months, and your work isn't yet over, Leo. It's time to figure out what your boundaries are. It's easy enough to have rules: You're strong enough to hop into the ring with the best of them if you've been crossed. But how do you protect yourself and what you love without going into battle? Reconsider your fears and your worst-case scenarios, and then step forward. All you have to do is be honest, firm, and direct—no gimmicks or games needed. You can't control how others respond and you shouldn't even try. This month, you just need to keep your side of the road clean, my love.

 

 

VIRGO 🖤
August 23–September 22

Can you tell the difference between your anxieties and your instincts' telling you that something is wrong? The days leading up to this month's Full Moon in Sagittarius on the 9th will kick up a little bit of both, and the best way for you to handle it is with your discerning mind, Virgo. You need to manage your inner world in order to really show up in your relationships. This month may bring you some mixed messages in your love life, but that doesn't mean that things are bad. Don't assume the worst when you don't understand what's going on! Find ways to calm yourself down enough to figure out what's real and what's narrative. There's no need for you to isolate yourself as you do this, either. Reach out to your fam for some much-needed perspective this month.

 

 

LIBRA 🖤
September 23–October 22

Seeking the truth is a noble cause, but sometimes it's futile. While something is true for you, it may not be true for someone else. If you can't accept the very real differences between you and others, you'll feel out of balance this month—especially from the 15th onward. You are likely to be in a battle with your own anxieties, and the worst thing you can do is seek to make people agree with you in an effort to prove to yourself (or them) that your perspective is accurate. You have a right to your feels, but not to making people agree with them, Libra. For healthy and sustainable relationships, validate your own sweet self and find healthy compromises with others this month.

 

 

SCORPIO 🖤
October 23–November 21

While everyone else is scrambling to handle the intense energies that this summer is bringing, you're in your comfort zone, Scorpio. The astrology of this month is calling you to let go, and you're an old pro at that. If you've been trying to make sense of what other people are doing (or not), then it's taken you off-course. You don't need to know what's motivating others, but you do need to understand what's driving you to stay in the dynamics you're in and handle them as you have been. Honor your feels by taking responsibility for them. Freedom comes from having options, so remember yours. You're very likely not a victim or without recourse, so even if you don't love your choices, be strong enough to make the best ones available to you.

 

 

SAGITTARIUS 🖤
November 22–December 21

The Moon is full in your sign but once a year, and it's always a big deal, so on the 9th you can expect to be full of feels. This whole month is going to trigger big emotions for you, as there's lots of activity in your relationship house, 'Tarius. This can be great for attracting new people into your life, but if you do, expect those new folks to play an intense role moving forward. Don't hide in your relationships, and let them be a vehicle for transformation instead. You shouldn't have to know where things are going to show all the way up. Determine how you feel and what you want, even if it feels like a huge risk, my love.

 

 

CAPRICORN 🖤
December 22–January 19

Your emotional self-care needs to be your top priority this June. No matter how compelling it may feel to take care of work or even to manage your relationships, you'll end up just tending to the presentation of your issues instead of their roots. The little day-to-day things that you do to check in with yourself and make sure that you're doing all right are really important—they are the foundation of all that you love because they dictate how much energy you have for connecting with others. This month, your inspiration should come from that image they show you on airplanes of the lady putting the oxygen mask on herself before she assists anyone else in an emergency. Love yourself and loving others becomes easier, Capricorn.

 

 

AQUARIUS 🖤
January 20–February 18

Love is a process, so let it unfold. Venus enters Taurus on the 6th, and that can be low-key annoying for you, Aquarius. This month you find yourself agitated by things people do, or the way they do them. This makes it a kind of a hard time for first dates if they're structured, but it can be great for spontaneous meetings. The trick is that you need to get out of your own way. If you're too focused on what you want, you'll see only evidence of its absence. Let your fortunes reveal themselves to you slowly, even if you find that maddening. Nothing needs to be perfect now, or even tomorrow. Learn about what makes you tick from the very things that bug you. Everything can be leveraged into a growth opportunity if you're looking to see it that way.

 

 

PISCES 🖤
February 19–March 20

If you feel as if you're being pulled in so many directions that you don't know what to do, that's because you are. You need to prioritize, Pisces, and that's hard to do when everything feels equally important. This month you may have to put love on the back burner while you catch up on the rest of your life, but that can bring up its own problems. Don't ghost the people you love, because they'll come around with hurt feels that you will feel compelled to care for—even if you don't have the time or energy to do so. Let others take care of you! Ask directly for what you need, and then allow yourself to enjoy the gifts you're offered. It's not selfish to accept gifts that are freely given. Be receptive to them, sweet one.

 

XO

💖 Love Horoscope May 2017

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originally written for Glamour

 

ARIES

March 21-April 19

The moment you feel like jumping out of your own skin is exactly when you need to calm TF down, Aries. This month can bring you exciting shifts in your love life, or it can just make you want to pick fights. What you feel entitled to say around the 9th may come back to haunt you between the 18th and the 26th. If your self-care game isn’t on point, you’re likely to feel the worst of this, so before you act out, get yea to the gym, shrink, yoga mat, or wherever you find your calm, my love. If you’re centered and a little bit lucky, this month will bring you chances to deepen your intimacies. Own what you’re choosing to consent to, lover.

 


TAURUS

April 20-May 20

The Full Moon on the 10th is going to hit you in your relationship house, Taurus. This only happens but once a year, and it’s totally a big deal. Take stock of what you’re feeling in your closest relationships – not what you think of them, not what seems practical – what you actually, truly, feel. This is a chance to get emotionally present with yourself that you should totally grab onto. By the time the 24th rolls around, you’ll be confronted by the truth of your feels anyway, in what could be a kinda dramatic development in your relationships. Honor your feels, even if they require that you look at some scary emotions. 

 

 

GEMINI

May 21-June 21

If you’ve been phoning in your relationships and going through the motions, you’re likely to find yourself hecka agitated this month. Mars is in your sign for all of May, and this can be really great or really annoying news, depending. Mars wants you to mobilize, or it’ll get easily agitated. Moving your relationships forward requires you to be present in them though. Show up, Twin Star. Confront the good, the bad, and the awkward because you now have the energy to make the most of it all. The New Moon on the 25th in your relationship house is likely to bring up a deeper sense of connection between you and others; it can even signal the start of something new. Be here for it all.

 

 

CANCER

June 22-July 22

The kindness you show others is important, Moonchild. If you allow your friendships to fall by the wayside when things are sunshine and rainbows, how can you reasonably expect them to be there for you when they feel like they’re falling apart? You’re going to have to deal with some important matters of the heart in the second half of the month, and you’ll need your support system in place for it. Work on being a good listener this month. Whether it’s with bae or with your sister, your challenge now is to be able to hear where others are at without making it about you. Everyone gets to have their own feels; hearing someone else’s doesn’t have to cancel yours out. 

 

LEO

July 23-Aug. 22

Who do you count as family? The Full Moon on the 10th is going to bring up all kinds of feels around your sense of connection and make you hecka emo about your place in the world. If you’ve been holding it together instead of leaning on loved ones, this may make you feel really lonely, Leo. You need people, not just to be an adoring audience (as nice as that is!) but to share of your real self with. Just because you can make others think you feel okay, that doesn’t mean you actually do. Work on expanding your willingness to be vulnerable with others. It’s totally worth it, my love.

 

 

VIRGO

Aug. 23-Sept. 22

Sometimes you’ve gotta let go, Virgo. If you’ve been holding on to a fantasy of who you are or where you’re at, you’ve probably been feeling pretty dank about yourself lately. Sometimes you need to feel bad to have that confrontation with reality that the Universe has been waiting on you to have. Around the 11th, watch out for illusions shattered. Be willing to see things as they really are so that you can assert the appropriate self-care. By the time the Venus square to Pluto on the 25th rolls around, you want to be in a position to know what to keep and what’s better gotten rid of. Get real so you can move on.

 

 

LIBRA

Sept. 23-Oct. 22

This month is likely to bring you all kinds of surprises, so strap yourself in and get ready, Libra! People are unpredictable and at times confusing, so here’s a pro tip for managing their meshagas: don’t. You don’t have to understand where anyone else is coming from, only how you feel about it. You don’t need to know what they’re going to do next because that’s a distraction from your own choices. Don’t concern yourself so much with what others are or aren’t doing that you lose sight of what’s heartfelt and true for you. Relationships are a call and response game, and it’s on you to figure out where you truly stand.

 

 

SCORPIO

Oct. 23-Nov. 21

Get ready, Scorpio! On the 10th is your one time a year that the Full Moon is in your sign, and that’s a big deal for your super-sensi heart. Make use of this emo shift by taking stock of how far you’ve come in the past twelve months. Your emotional wellness is an ever-shifting landscape, and the more awareness you bring to it, the healthier and more beautiful it’ll be. Illusions will be intensified around this week, so if you are all of a sudden feeling like a smitten kitten with someone that you never liked before, or if you’re all of a sudden feeling hella over bae, try not to take your feels at face value. But don’t worry – by the end of the month, things will even out. You don’t need things to work out quickly; you need them to work out right.

 

 

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22-Dec. 21

Loving yourself is an inside job, but the real test emerges when you get around other people. Are your boundaries weak, or are they rigid? This month, you’ll need to follow-through with what you know to be healthy for you, even when it’s complicated or awkward. Your relationships are going through a bit of reorienting that reflects the big changes you’ve been going through. For best results, don’t be so quick to react; take stock of whether you’ve clearly communicated where you’re at and what you can or can’t do. Give your honies a chance to keep up with you before you decide that they can’t. Pace yourself for the win.

 

 

CAPRICORN

Dec. 22-Jan. 19

If you can get out of your own way, you can experience a greater love than what you’ve yet known, Cappy. The ways in which you protect yourself are admirable, but when you put up shields when you’re not in any actual danger, you aren’t making things safer. Check in with the walls you’ve built around yourself, and make sure that they’re keeping you safe and not isolated. You don’t have to trust that others will always be cool, but you do have to trust yourself. If you know that you’ll take care of you in dodgy situations, it’s OK to take those emo risks.

 

 

AQUARIUS

Jan. 20-Feb. 18

You don’t have to want to be all lovey dovey or married and buried, Aquarius. You get to want to be alone, or to be in any kind of relationship structure that appeals to you. What you do need is to be clear about what you’re here for and to make sure that you’re participating in the kinds of relationships that work for your truest self. The Full Moon on the 10th will bring up some intense feels about where you’re at in your closest connections – don’t make light of it. Commit to cultivating the kind of self-understanding that allows you to attract the situations and dynamics that make you happy, my love.

 

 

PISCES

Feb. 19-March 20

When you start saying no or even just changing, it’s easy for the people who you’re closest to, to feel threatened. It’s normal, but that doesn’t mean that you have to indulge other people’s feelings, Pisces. Be ready for the real-life impact of changes you’ve been working on for months. Don’t get all people-pleasy when things get intense; stand your ground when it feels important because if you lose someone for being honest, you never had them at all. From the 25th though to the 29th, be extra mindful with your reactions. If you’ve mislead people to believe that things were OK when they weren’t, you may have to take responsibility. Own your part and build from there this month.

 

 

XO

 

 

💖 Love Horoscope: April 2017

horoscope originally written for Glamour

 

ARIES

March 21-April 19

From the 6th through the 14th you’re in for it, Aries! It’s the final days of Venus Retrograde, and if you haven’t aligned your actions with your values, you’re likely to be feeling the pressure. Don’t react with defensiveness to other people’s perceptions of you unless you’re down for a fight. If you know what you are, you also know what you’re not; you don’t need justify your actions, but you’re gonna want to if they weren’t true to you. The full Moon on the 10th will kick up relationship dynamics, which you can totally manage if you’re on your game but will send you into a tailspin if you’re off it. Don’t freak out! Just let the complicated stuff point you towards what you need to work on, lover.

 

 

­TAURUS

April 20-May 20

When Mercury goes Retrograde in your sign on the 9th, you’ll have the double whammy of your ruling planet, Venus, and the planet of communication, Mercury, making you feel all kinds of awkward. This is a great time for reviewing your relationships, and I suggest starting with a little place called you. If you’ve been choosing relationships and dynamics in your life that consistently make you unhappy, there must be something else you’re getting from the situation. Investigate your unconscious motives towards yourself, Taurus. You can expect some discord in your friendship world around the 8th and then around the 21st; don’t lash out before looking at how your participation has affected things. Love is an action, and it’s all about process, not perfection, my love.

 

 

GEMINI

May 21-June 21

There’s what you think about your relationships, and then there’s how you act; there’s what you intend to do for your self-care, and then there’s what you actually do. These two things are meaningfully connected, and this Venus Retrograde cycle (over on the 15th) is likely to have illuminated those connections for you. Just in case you’re not sure about the links between how you take care of yourself and the interpersonal connections that you have, Venus is down to teach you one big lesson on the 8th and then again on the 21st when it squares Saturn. Be prepared to deal with things as they really are, Twin Star. If you don’t like it, there’s no time for change like this very moment.

 

 

CANCER

June 22-July 22

Your work/life balance is hecka up this month, Moonchild. Take some time to make sure that you’re not too burnt out to feel the love that’s in your life because you totally deserve to experience your sweetest of feels. When Mercury goes Retrograde on the 9th, it’s your time to review your relationship to your big-picture goals and how you’re living up to them. If you’ve been caught up in the grind, you haven’t been honoring your true nature – you’re a lover, my friend. Don’t just run blindly out of the fear of scarcity; go towards security and the things you most want. If you can get what you want in life, then your job is to want the right things.

 

 

 

LEO

July 23-Aug. 22

This is the end, Leo. You may have let go a while back or you may need to do that now, but no matter what you’ve done in the past, it’s time to create the kind of closure that gives you peace. No one can tie up your feels for you – it’s a job for only you, no matter how tempting it is to make your wellness conditional on the will or actions of others. When you let go of the past, you are able to be open to the limitless potential of your future. As always, the Full Moon on the 10th is an excellent time for resolution of all kinds, but if you can’t get it done then, the New Moon on the 26th can support you in being open to life on the other side of where you’ve been.

 

 

 

VIRGO

Aug. 23-Sept. 22

How you treat your relationships is a matter of great consequence. Whether you have a tendency to withhold or to give too much, it’s kinda the same thing because in both cases you’re not being true to yourself, my love. This month will test you by bringing IRL consequences to the dynamics that you’ve consented to participating in. Whether or not the other person is at fault, it’s only your choices and actions that you need to concern yourself with. On the 8th and then again on the 21st you’re likely to be confronted with the need for change. Step up to the challenge of long-developing tensions with all the TLC you’ve got, Virgo.

 

 

LIBRA

Sept. 23-Oct. 22

Something or someone exciting may come through your life around the 7th, so get ready! The truism easy come, easy go should be observed, but take a chance, Libra! The Full Moon on the 10th is in your sign, and it’s a great time to spend alone, getting serious about your relationship to your own sweet self. This is a great moment to catch up with all the changes you’ve been facing and just be with it. Mercury, the planet of friendship and communications, will go Retrograde on the 9th and hit your relationship house on the 21st. You can only effectively express where you’re at if you know where that is; get yourself together before you tend to your interpersonal connections this month, lover.

 

 

 

SCORPIO

Oct. 23-Nov. 21

Love isn’t always fun. The more you like someone, the more you have to lose, and that’s scary and awful and enough to shut a good Scorpio down. Instead of protecting yourself from potential calamity, align yourself with the truth. Every light casts a shadow; don’t fear the shadow, my love. Step into the rough spots, and practice tolerance and compassion so that you can heal what’s hurting. Cultivate a lasting love life by letting the flow of your life direct you towards what needs attention. The New Moon on the 26th in your relationship house is an excellent time for new beginnings and a great reason to clear out your fears and let the light in.

 

 

 

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22-Dec. 21

When Mercury goes Retrograde on the 9th, it’ll make it easy for you to get so wrapped up in work that you forget about the little things. Commit to upping your self-care game this month, especially if it can include cleaning up your diet or exercise. Who and how you love are ongoing choices to make, and they’re a reflection of what you value enough to follow through on. Check in with your actions to make sure that it for reals reflects what you care about. When someone you care about is upset, it’s your turn to listen, not to defend yourself, Tarius. The Venus square to Saturn that will hit on the 8th and the 21st may be a bit humbling, but it’s just an opportunity to learn something.

 

 

 

CAPRICORN

Dec. 22-Jan. 19

You wanna stay home and tend to yourself, but the world keeps calling you out, Cappy.  It’s time for you to put your money where your mouth is and stand up for what you believe in. This month’s astrology wants you to live with greater balance and more authenticity, and it doesn’t care if it needs to gently nudge you in that direction or if it has to shove you down a flight of stairs to get there. Honor the changes you know you need to make in order to have a higher quality of life. You can receive all the love of the world, but if you don’t love the life you’re providing for your own sweet self, you won’t be able to feel that love. Start with your love for the Cappy within, Puppy.

 

 

AQUARIUS

Jan. 20-Feb. 18

There’s likely to be so much 411 coming at you in the first half of the month that it will be easy to get distracted from your love life – if your love life isn’t the thing that’s doing the distracting, that is. By the time that Mercury goes Retrograde on the 9th, you’ll be ready to start unpacking all the details and locating yourself within them. Don’t allow yourself to react to dynamics without sufficient forethought, Aquarius. How you participate with who you love gets woven into the fabric of that relationship. If you’re single and wanting to get with someone, you may have gotten so wrapped up in your narratives that you stopped really listening. Being surprised is an exciting part of getting to know people; create space for that, wherever you’re at in your relationships this month.

 

 

PISCES

Feb. 19-March 20

You get to have boundaries, even if it’s scary or if it disappoints or inconveniences others. You’re a person, and you don’t need an excuse or a defense for yourself; you do need to honor your limits and needs if you expect anyone else to. If you feel guilty when you say no to others, you need to ask yourself how you feel when you say it to yourself. Relationships are about give and take, and when you decide for others what they get of you, you risk underestimating them or underestimating yourself. It’s not your job to maintain others. Keep your side of the road clean, and let others do the same. If everything falls apart when you stop holding it together, it was bound to do it sooner or later, anyways.

 

 

XO

💖 Love Horoscope :March 2017

Written originally for Glamour 

 

ARIES

March 21-April 19

This month kicks off with hella emo vibes that’re trying to nudge you into making space for self-care. Spend intentional alone time and go on a mini social media cleanse. Try and clear the decks and realign with your values this month. On the 4th Venus goes Retrograde in your sign, and it’ll make you look at your friendships differently. Fight for what you believe in, but know that getting triggered by your gurl is not the same as her coming for you. Don’t project your dank feels about yourself onto the babes that love you most. The New Moon is in your sign only once a year. It’s a fantastic time for heartfelt and fiery new connections. Make sure your relationship is going in the right direction this month or course correct if it isn’t. If you’re not hooked-up, potential is in the air, so get out and make something happen, Aries. 

♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!


TAURUS

April 20-May 20

When your ruling planet, Venus, goes Retrograde on the 4th, you’re gonna need to get real with yourself, Taurus. The best way to take care of yourself this month is to get in touch with your values and to make sure that the way you’re living reflects them. Your relationships need extra TLC from you, and the place to start is with your homies. If your friendships have been coasting, you’re in for a rude awakening. Treat the bbs you love with the care that they deserve, no matter how compelling other parts of your life are. Your love life is also in need of maintenance, so here’s a pro tip to do it right: you don’t need to preserve everything. Don’t convince others to like you before you decide if you like them for real. You’ve gotta love yourself first and foremost, sweet one.

Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

GEMINI

May 21-June 21

Your sign has a bad habit of flying too close to the Sun and getting burned up. There’s only so much you can do, Twin Star. If you’ve taken on too much, or given your lover friend more than you can sustain, this month you’re gonna feel the bite. It’s healthy to have limits, and you get into trouble when you make commitments that you don’t make good on. Try to know yourself well enough to know where the wall is before you crash into it. After the 11th is an especially good time for one-on-one friend time or for chilling on your own. No matter how badly you want to rush things along, you need to pace yourself to protect your relationships this month.

 ♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

CANCER

June 22-July 22

Let the people who love you, know the real you, Moonchild. When the truth is uncomfortable you have a tendency to sidestep it as a way to protect yourself and others from cruddiness, but it doesn’t work. This month you’re on call to show up for the awkward stuff with the people you love. If you want others to show up for you, you’ve got to take risks. The ways that you protect yourself are backfiring because true intimacy doesn’t happen with fake peace, and you want the real thing. Don’t let yourself slip into nicey-nice BS when it’s time to get real, and don’t get real unless you’re willing to listen to how the other person is feeling.

♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

LEO

July 23-Aug. 22

You’re in it, Leo. you’ve got to strive to be honest with yourself, or you have no chance of being real with others. How you think about love and who you let into your life continue to be up for reexamination, Leo. Instead of trying to push down your feels and continue down a path that you know isn’t quite right, it’s time for some radical realness. This month it’ll be hard to keep control over things, so don’t even try, my friend.  Show up for the good, the bad, the ugly, and stick around for all of it. If you can’t be genuine with the babes you love, you’ve gotta ask yourself what that love is based on. Be the change that you want to see in your relationships this month.

 ♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

VIRGO

Aug. 23-Sept. 22

The Moon is full in your sign only once a year, and when it’s your time, it’s important that you take note. The 12th is going to be a heavy and introspective Full Moon in Virgo, and you have the chance to do some real healing, but it’ll take work. It’s time to get out of your own way, Virgo bb. Dissociate yourself from your old stories, and take a fresh look at how you’re participating in your relationships. You may have convinced yourself that things are a certain way, but that doesn’t make it so. Take stock of your actions and whether or not they reflect how you mean to be. To err is human; be humble about your part so you can finally move on.

 ♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

LIBRA

Sept. 23-Oct. 22

The New Moon on the 27th may bring you an exciting new crush, but nothing much will happen if you don’t put yourself out there, Libra. You're attracting people and dynamics that you’re resonating with – and if you don’t like what you’re getting, then the first thing you need to change is you. Ask your closest loves what they think you actually want; see what you’re putting out there without knowing it, Libra. This can be a time of growth spurts and heartfelt transformation if you let it. Confront uncomfortable truths, and deal with whatever you find. Love only lasts when it’s built on a foundation of a shared understanding of reality. You’re ready to move beyond your limitations. Be brave this month, lover.

♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

SCORPIO

Oct. 23-Nov. 21

Whether you like it or not, there’s going to be some meaningful movement in your closest relationships from the 11th onwards, Scorpio. Mars will be sitting in your relationship house, and that means that you’re going to push or be pushed my friend. How you’ve been taking care of your emotional health is finally coming around to impact your friendships, and it’s important that you listen with an open mind to what your babes have to tell you. As important as your love life is, it’s essential that you have more going on than just that. Invest in all the people and activities that you love this month for a well-rounded and happy you.

 ♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22-Dec. 21

You’ve changed. What used to work for you isn’t necessarily a match anymore, and even though it’s awkward, there’s no shame in that. Look out for the change inside your own heart and in your thinking. What used to be chill for you is shifting, and you’d be wise to catch up with it before things move way out of control, ‘Tarius. This month you’re being confronted with how far you’re willing to go in efforts to avoid rocking the boat. We all have to be somebody’s bad guy some of the time, but that doesn’t make you an actual ‘bad guy’. Honor the truth because it’s true whether you want to deal with it or not, Kitten.

♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

CAPRICORN

Dec. 22-Jan. 19

Don’t be scared of change, Cappy. There’s a lot of spikey energy in your relationships right now; be interested in what’s up instead of running away from upsets. Sometimes you’ve got to choose between keeping the peace and being authentic in order to keep your relationships strong. While it’s easy to go for the former at the expense of the latter, it’ll backfire on you in the long run. Cultivate diplomacy that doesn’t change the truthiness of what you need to say, my love. By the middle of the month you may be feeling in the mood for anything but love, but don’t worry, it’ll pass. No one knows better than you that sometimes work comes before play; tend to the heavy stuff and you’ll feel freer for it, this month.

 ♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

AQUARIUS

Jan. 20-Feb. 18

You don’t get to decide for others whether or not you’ve hurt their feels, Aquarius. People are emo and messy, and don’t always make sense to you, or even to themselves. If you decide that you’re ‘right’ and have all the proof to back that up, that doesn’t change a damn thing. If you care about others, then it’s your turn to listen, not to explain. If you can’t do this, you’ll find that you alienate yourself and convince no one of anything. The New Moon on the 27th will be a great time to reconcile whatever needs healing. Deepen your listening skills leading up till then, and you’ll have peace with the results.

♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

PISCES

Feb. 19-March 20

Don’t idealize people, Pisces. Even if you think that you’re choosing to see the best in someone, the truth is that if you don’t see the good, the bad, and the ugly, you’re not accepting the all of what they are. This month you’re going to have to confront some reality in your love life that you may or may not want to see. If you don’t like everything about a person that’s OK but you need to be honest with yourself about it. You have the right to stay or go, just don’t lie to yourself or bae about where you’re at and what your heart is saying. Own your feels and the consequences that they yield, my love.

♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here! 

 

XO

 

 



 

 

 

2016 Love Yourself Astrology

I don't care much for Valentine's Day, but I do love LOVE; so I wrote this 2016 Love Forecast for you in honor of self-love! Loving yourself right lays the foundation for any kind of intimate relationship to thrive. Whether you're looking in the mirror, feeling your friends, or loving your bae, you deserve to be happy. Luckily it's hecka cool to be kind this year, so be a doll and spread some love around, BB! 

ARIES

March 21-April 19

Love Yourself:

The greatest enemy to your state of mind is your own damn self, Aries. How you manage anxieties will be the central thing that defines your happiness this year. You have so much going for you and even more resources at your disposal than you’re using, but you have to remember to be grateful for them. Instead of guilting yourself or searching for more than you have, strive to get grounded and present in the goodness of the here and now, even when it isn’t what you’d prefer, lover.

 

Love Relationships:

There’s no predicting the future, dahlink; well, actually, there’s hella ways to do it, but knowing what comes next won’t actually absolve you of the need to figure out how to live and love well. Don’t let your overactive mind steer your (at times) overactive ego toward defensive actions. Don’t attach more meaning than is necessary to all the little stuff, Aries. Your love life is playing itself out in stages, and no one stage will last forever. Let the magic and madness of relating to others unfold however it needs to.

 

­TAURUS

April 20-May 20

Love Yourself:

Your feelings are super important, but how you hold them will determine if they feel like a burden or an asset. Returning to the same feels and thoughts over and over tends to be more draining than helpful; nonetheless, you’re at a high risk of obsessing over things instead of moving through them. Your self-love pro tip is to treat yourself with the same compassion and patience that you would offer your BFF. However you feel is OK, so make time and space for your heart’s meows and barks, even when you don’t know what it means.

 

Love Relationships:

Success and failure are not about getting what you want or the absence of it; when it comes to relationships, it’s about being healthy and happy. Don’t be so attached to how things look that you deemphasize how you actually feel, Taurus. Listen to the people and situations in your life instead of forcing your will on them; it’ll make it way easier to get what you want that way. Don’t fix things that are better left broken, and don’t stay in dynamics when you can’t allow joy to permeate. You deserve the things that will bring you happiness, even when that isn’t what you thought it’d be, lover.

 

GEMINI

May 21-June 2

Love Yourself:

Love is a beautiful thing, but when it gets tested is when you have to have a serious come-to Yeezus, my gem. Trust your instincts, even when it’s inconvenient, scary, or hard. If you make mistakes, make sure that they’re heartfelt and honest ones. Your ability to make choices and live with them is being tested, and that takes hella self-love, Twin Star. Slipping into obsession and self-criticism is an easy, even lazy way to be. Dare to be successful and happy without consequences and self-sabotage, lover.

 

Love Relationships:

Don’t be scared of things changing in your love life because they have to change in order to keep up with you, Twin Star. Love is not a destination, it’s an action. Some times it’s an easy ride, and other times it’s rough. Don’t let the highs and lows distract you from your primary goal: happiness. Make sure that you’re brave enough to pursue it, even when it requires major upheaval. Keeping things fun is great, but even fun gets boring after a while. Joy is the ultimate end game, and whatever brings you there is good news. Embrace change, lover.

 

CANCER

June 22-July 22

Love Yourself:

You’re biggest hurdle is believing in yourself enough to finally do what you know you’ve gotta. It may sound too simple, but if you decide to be happy, you will be. This doesn’t mean that you should be a Pollyanna and pretend that life isn’t hard and that there aren’t dire problems that require your attention. Strive to find benefit and value in the things that are hurtful, and turn your attention often to the things that bring you joy. What you feed will grow, Moonchild, so pour yourself into every YES you’ve got to build up a happy love life with your own sweet self.

 

Love Relationships:

Fear is a bad MF because it whispers in your ear and tells you that it’s the only truth worth hearing. When you’re scared it inclines you to protect yourself, even when there’s no actual danger. Instead of defending yourself (and unwittingly pushing others away in the process), just practice being forthcoming, lover. If you’re scared that someone is being shady or if you don’t know where you stand, ask questions. Relationships take vulnerability, and that sticky stuff is a two-way street. Show up with the same honesty and care that you wish others would.

 

LEO

July 23-Aug. 22

Love Yourself:

Your center – otherwise known as your will -- is a healthy place to keep strong and bright; your ego, not so much. You may have confused the drives of your ego for your true needs in recent months, and if so, you’ve been having a pretty hard time of late. If you feel overwhelmed and burnt out, it’s your call to take a for reals break from your ego. Instead of defending it’s rights and avoiding it’s butthurt feels, try to understand what’s going on under the surface. You deserve a life that will make you authentically happy and not just satisfy your loudest inner-rumblings. Take healthy and brave risks, lover Leo.

 

Love Relationships:

If you’re going to make your relationships work, your biggest job is not to do it at the expense of your best self, Leo. The loyalty that you show the people you love shouldn’t overshadow your need to be loyal to your own needs. Don’t be so attached to how you want things to look that you forget the realest truth: it’s how you feel that matters. If the status quo is holding you back, be brave enough to dump it. if you stop holding on to what burdens you, you’ll have more room in your arms for what makes you happy, my love.

 

VIRGO

Aug. 23-Sept. 22

Love Yourself:

There’s no magic way to evade uncertainty and hard times, Virgo. your challenge is to not define yourself with every rough patch you hit. It’s to cope with the unpleasantness of life with patience. You’re ready for meaningful change, but first you’ve got to stop holding on to everything as though your life depended on it. Take loving care of yourself because how you do you lays the foundation to who you let in and how you let them treat you. Bring in the new by letting go of the old, even if you have to do it before the next thing presents itself.

 

Love Relationships:

Your relationships need to be flexible, or you’ll get stuck like the Tin Man. If your people need you to always be the supportive one, or if there’s no room for you to embody the fullness of what you are, you’ll end up atrophying, my love. Don’t look for a person who can make you happy, look for a dynamic that does that trick. A successful relationship works IRL, and not only in theory. Pleasure passes quickly and joy feeds your soul; make sure you’re choosing wisely between the two, Virgo.

 

LIBRA

Sept. 23-Oct. 22

Love Yourself:

There’s no amount of twisting and turning that’s gonna make you see the light. It’s time that you had a serious heart-to-heart with yourself, Libra. You’ve been a kinda weird friend to your self lately. How you handle anxiety directly relates to how you feel in your own skin, how you act around others, and what you believe is possible for your life. Don’t reason with yourself, because anxiety is -- by it’s very nature -- unreasonable. Instead, be kind to yourself, feed yourself, and sleep enough. Support yourself through upsets so that you can decide the best way to move through them.

 

Love Relationships:

You are loved and it’s a beautiful thing, Libra. Whether you have the love of your friends, family, bae, or your goldfish, now is the time to look at how you let that love in. If you allow other people to take care of you, that’s beautiful; but it shouldn’t replace how you care for yourself. Let the way that others love you inspire you to love better, bigger, and more wholly. Your ability to love is huge, so take the time to perfect how you express it and how you pace yourself through your intimacies. Strive to express yourself in a balanced way because having an open and willing heart is risky but totally worth it, lover.

 

SCORPIO

Oct. 23-Nov. 21

Love Yourself:

You can do it all right, but that doesn’t it mean that things’ll go your way; and if they don’t, it doesn’t mean that you’ve failed. Life is weird. You may think you know how things should go, but the Fates have their own plans. Secure yourself by getting solid about where you’re at, where you wanna go, and what you need to get there. It’s easy to think that things are going against you when they don’t go your way, but it isn’t true! Solidify your foundations, and then let go of your attachments to how things should look, Scorpio.

 

Love Relationships:

Beginnings are beautiful and fun and pose limitless possibilities. They’re also terrifying and can make you feel out of control in all kinds of ways. Process your sad and bad feels about your relationships past and present so that they don’t back you up. You need flow and when you’re scared, it’s hard to achieve it. When things feel chaotic, it’s not time to jump in the ring because those kinds of feels create all kinds of blind spots that can trip you up. Tend to your innards before you try and manage your relationships so that you solve issues instead of create them.

 

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22-Dec. 21

Love Yourself:

UGH. Saturn is in your sign, and it’s harshing your mellow, ‘Tarius. As annoying as it may be, you have to deal with some seriously adult themes, and it’s kinda a bummer, especially if you fight it. Carve out time for heartfelt contemplation. Get out your Dear Diary and use it to parse out what’s going on under the surface of your life, lover. You have meaningful choices to make, and it’s best if you can make them from an abundant and fluid place rather than out of fear.

 

Love Relationships:

Obsessing on things helps no one, lover. There’s the things you do and there’s how you feel, and if they’re not aligned you have nothing less than a huge mess. Don’t just put out the effort to do the ‘right’ thing; also strive to feel right with yourself. Forcing your will onto your relationships, even if you totally believe it’s for the best, will only create more friction in your relationships. Let things be for a while, babes. Let people reveal themselves to you in their own time. If you can accept where your relationships are starting from, you can more effectively making lasting changes moving forward.

 

CAPRICORN

Dec. 22-Jan. 19

Love Yourself:

Freedom comes from knowing yourself, and you, Cappy Mon Capitan are changing. There’s nothing you have to do other than be open to changing your mind, your ways of relating to others, and the energy with which you approach these things (that’s all!). Embrace change! Be interested in the possibilities that would be easy to shy away from or not entertain at all. Try out different ways of looking at things. If you participate in new ways, you’ll get new answers, lover.

 

Love Relationships:

In order to show up for your relationships, you’ve got to handle your head, Cappy. Anxiety is the worst because of how it feels and how it scrambles your perspective. It’s an old habit for you to expect the worst, and it’s totally played out; so be brave enough to take a new route. Show your self and the people you’re close to compassion and kindness, and see how much that shifts the playing field of how you connect. We’re all trying to do our best to be happy; it’s just that some of us are better at it than others. Put away your paranoia and embrace informed vulnerability so that you can have more love in your life.

 

AQUARIUS

Jan. 20-Feb. 18

Love Yourself:

Loving yourself is both a receptive and an active thing. You’ve got to be able to hear the whispers of your inner voice in order to heed them, but you have a tendency to get in your own way when those whispers are emotionally laden. Be a good date to yourself and be a better listener, Aquarius. You may need to take a time-out, so you can get calm enough to feel your feels. Once you’re clear about your needs, what to do next will organically show up for you. Play nice while you’re gestating and trust your instincts, lover.

 

Love Relationships:

Don’t try to get others to do your bidding just ‘cause you’re distracted. Self-protection is essential, but it shouldn’t come at the expense of collaborating in your relationships. Don’t be shy to take a step back from the ones you love when you know that you can’t really give them the energy they deserve. As restless as you can be, it's time to employ patience with the people you care about. It’s unclear what you’re feeling when you’re distracted by other things, so reserve judgment until your heart catches up with your head.

 

PISCES

Feb. 19-March 20

Love Yourself:

We’re always growing up, Pisces, and how you handle your life today determines the kind of grown-up person you’ll become. Take the time to take care of yourself, lover. You are changing, and you’ve got to make sure that you’re pointing yourself in a healthy and happy direction instead of only making sure that you’re pointed away from upsets. You’re at a foundation-laying phase, and from this place you don’t have to have all the answers, you only have to be moving in the right direction.

 

Love Relationships:

In order to have truly successful relationships, you’ve gotta figure out how to be more honest, Pisces. Protecting people’s feelings sounds nice on the surface. Are you in truth protecting others from your needs, feels, and opinions; or are you shielding yourself from having to be accountable for them? Work on being more worthy of trust by showing up authentically, even if it’s hella awkward. Here’s a little pro tip to get you started: your integrity and your feelings are all wrapped up with each other, so when you’re looking for what’s true, just honor what you feel, BB.

XO

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Be Yours 2014 Love Horoscope

I’m not a fan of V-Day ‘cause it makes single folks feel lonely and coupled people feel pressured. So in defiance of Hallmark and low-quality/high-calorie chocolates in heart shaped boxes I present to you the Be Yours Horoscopes for 2014. Everyone is talking about their romantic life (or lack thereof) today, and I say: let's talk about self love! The only way to have a healthy love life is to be healthy in how you approach it. Cuz loving yourself comes before you can love anyone else, today and every day.

xo

 

ARIES

March 21-April 19

Co-dependence is not a four letter word but it might as well be. When you love somebody it’s easy to take advantage of them because the comfort that you have can lend itself to emotional laziness. The best way to protect the relationships you care the most for is by being willing to take care of yourself. Honestly communicate where you’re at without expecting others to feel the same, or share your perspective. Co-create your relationships, Aries.

TAURUS

April 20-May 20

It’s best when you’re not rushed, Taurus. Love needs time to grow and the right conditions to flourish in, and that all takes time to develop. Pair soulful self-reflection with steady action in matters of the heart. You are capable of so much! You are able in the realm of intimacy and also with the maintenance aspects of partnership. Give yourself the space and time to choose the right people and situations to thrive in, my friend.

GEMINI

May 21-June 21

It’s important that you know why you want the relationships that you have. Some people are good for hanging out with and some folks are the ones that you can love and trust in the long haul. We tend to need both kinds of relationships and you’d be wise to make sure that your life is not too lopsided. Cultivate many kinds of love to support what (or who) ever is most important to you. As the adage says: it takes a village to keep a Gemini happy.

CANCER

June 22-July 22

Pain has a funny way of clarifying things or making them somehow more pure. That’s because when your survival instincts are engaged your thoughts can quiet down. When your gut instincts don’t have to compete for attention to be heard, they are so much easier to heed. Don’t wait for heartache to teach you how to rely on yourself, Moonchild. Develop ways of checking in with yourself and your heartfelt intuition before you need to.

LEO

July 23-Aug. 22

Don’t wait until you’re overwhelmed before you tell your loved ones what’s going on with you, Leo. You’re not responsible for taking care of everyone and everything, but you are responsible for yourself. This means that you’ve got to be honest about how close to your limits you are before you hit them. There’s no need to rush; you’ll get the most from your love life if you prioritize being present, wherever that is. The future will eventually meet you here.

VIRGO

Aug. 23-Sept. 22

It’s hard to connect to people in a way that nurtures your soul when you’re stuck in a stance of self-protection. Your relationships require you to do the right thing; live by your code of ethics and honor the expectations you’ve created. But that’s all. You get to have boundaries and limits that support you, Virgo. Identify what you need and either create it or request it from those you purport to trust. Relationships travel on a two-way street.

LIBRA

Sept. 23-Oct. 22

The people that you attract to your life and choose to keep around reflect a lot about who you are. If you can’t trust your lovers (of both the platonic and romantic variety) then why do you keep them close? It’s time to take stock of your relationship choices and make sure they reflect what’s in your heart and your best interests. There’s no need for immediate action; pursue a fact-finding investigation about the role you play with the love you’ve got.

SCORPIO

Oct. 23-Nov. 21

When you feel upset and life bums you out, the worst thing you can do is try to cover up those feelings with fake cheer, Scorpio. You feel your emotions from a very deep place inside of you and need to tend to that place in a healthy way. Make sure that you spend enough time alone to support yourself, but not so much that you get to brooding and make things worse. It’s a magic combination and you’ll only hit it with practice and patience.

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22-Dec. 21

It’s no secret that you like to go big or go home as yours is the sign of limitless possibilities. When it comes to love and sustainable human intimacy there has got to be limits to what we can give and get, though. Allowing for healthy adjustments to your relationships only helps you and your partners to be more true and free. Don’t lock and load who you love; let intimacies develop in ways that work for all parties, even when that’s uncomfortable.

CAPRICORN

Dec. 22-Jan. 19

If you look for the worst, it's not hard to find it, and if you’re all filled up with fear and self-hate, then it leaves very little room for anything else to come in. You’ve got have self-love in order to attract and take in the love of another. Confront your demons, Capricorn, and do it with compassion for how they got there and how they’re screwing you up now. The worst you can do is enable yourself to stay stuck in a rut that keeps others at bay.

AQUARIUS

Jan. 20-Feb. 18

Your independence is a huge part of who you are, Aquarius, and you shouldn’t have to change that to be loved or to have your relationships function in a healthy way. The thing that you do have to be flexible about is how you express your autonomy to others. Be generous with how you express yourself, especially if you feel defensive about your need for space so that you don’t create the very dynamics that you are trying to avoid.

PISCES

Feb. 19-March 20

Kick the habit of putting others before yourself, Pisces. Get inspired by the people you care about whether it’s reciprocated or not. This is not the time to get caught up and slowed down by your insecurities. Dare to be more and to assert who and what you are firmly and with kindness to the people you want to be close to. You can take up space and take care of those you love at the same time; one does not have to come at the expense of the other.

xo