💖 Love Horoscope May 2017

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originally written for Glamour

 

ARIES

March 21-April 19

The moment you feel like jumping out of your own skin is exactly when you need to calm TF down, Aries. This month can bring you exciting shifts in your love life, or it can just make you want to pick fights. What you feel entitled to say around the 9th may come back to haunt you between the 18th and the 26th. If your self-care game isn’t on point, you’re likely to feel the worst of this, so before you act out, get yea to the gym, shrink, yoga mat, or wherever you find your calm, my love. If you’re centered and a little bit lucky, this month will bring you chances to deepen your intimacies. Own what you’re choosing to consent to, lover.

 


TAURUS

April 20-May 20

The Full Moon on the 10th is going to hit you in your relationship house, Taurus. This only happens but once a year, and it’s totally a big deal. Take stock of what you’re feeling in your closest relationships – not what you think of them, not what seems practical – what you actually, truly, feel. This is a chance to get emotionally present with yourself that you should totally grab onto. By the time the 24th rolls around, you’ll be confronted by the truth of your feels anyway, in what could be a kinda dramatic development in your relationships. Honor your feels, even if they require that you look at some scary emotions. 

 

 

GEMINI

May 21-June 21

If you’ve been phoning in your relationships and going through the motions, you’re likely to find yourself hecka agitated this month. Mars is in your sign for all of May, and this can be really great or really annoying news, depending. Mars wants you to mobilize, or it’ll get easily agitated. Moving your relationships forward requires you to be present in them though. Show up, Twin Star. Confront the good, the bad, and the awkward because you now have the energy to make the most of it all. The New Moon on the 25th in your relationship house is likely to bring up a deeper sense of connection between you and others; it can even signal the start of something new. Be here for it all.

 

 

CANCER

June 22-July 22

The kindness you show others is important, Moonchild. If you allow your friendships to fall by the wayside when things are sunshine and rainbows, how can you reasonably expect them to be there for you when they feel like they’re falling apart? You’re going to have to deal with some important matters of the heart in the second half of the month, and you’ll need your support system in place for it. Work on being a good listener this month. Whether it’s with bae or with your sister, your challenge now is to be able to hear where others are at without making it about you. Everyone gets to have their own feels; hearing someone else’s doesn’t have to cancel yours out. 

 

LEO

July 23-Aug. 22

Who do you count as family? The Full Moon on the 10th is going to bring up all kinds of feels around your sense of connection and make you hecka emo about your place in the world. If you’ve been holding it together instead of leaning on loved ones, this may make you feel really lonely, Leo. You need people, not just to be an adoring audience (as nice as that is!) but to share of your real self with. Just because you can make others think you feel okay, that doesn’t mean you actually do. Work on expanding your willingness to be vulnerable with others. It’s totally worth it, my love.

 

 

VIRGO

Aug. 23-Sept. 22

Sometimes you’ve gotta let go, Virgo. If you’ve been holding on to a fantasy of who you are or where you’re at, you’ve probably been feeling pretty dank about yourself lately. Sometimes you need to feel bad to have that confrontation with reality that the Universe has been waiting on you to have. Around the 11th, watch out for illusions shattered. Be willing to see things as they really are so that you can assert the appropriate self-care. By the time the Venus square to Pluto on the 25th rolls around, you want to be in a position to know what to keep and what’s better gotten rid of. Get real so you can move on.

 

 

LIBRA

Sept. 23-Oct. 22

This month is likely to bring you all kinds of surprises, so strap yourself in and get ready, Libra! People are unpredictable and at times confusing, so here’s a pro tip for managing their meshagas: don’t. You don’t have to understand where anyone else is coming from, only how you feel about it. You don’t need to know what they’re going to do next because that’s a distraction from your own choices. Don’t concern yourself so much with what others are or aren’t doing that you lose sight of what’s heartfelt and true for you. Relationships are a call and response game, and it’s on you to figure out where you truly stand.

 

 

SCORPIO

Oct. 23-Nov. 21

Get ready, Scorpio! On the 10th is your one time a year that the Full Moon is in your sign, and that’s a big deal for your super-sensi heart. Make use of this emo shift by taking stock of how far you’ve come in the past twelve months. Your emotional wellness is an ever-shifting landscape, and the more awareness you bring to it, the healthier and more beautiful it’ll be. Illusions will be intensified around this week, so if you are all of a sudden feeling like a smitten kitten with someone that you never liked before, or if you’re all of a sudden feeling hella over bae, try not to take your feels at face value. But don’t worry – by the end of the month, things will even out. You don’t need things to work out quickly; you need them to work out right.

 

 

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22-Dec. 21

Loving yourself is an inside job, but the real test emerges when you get around other people. Are your boundaries weak, or are they rigid? This month, you’ll need to follow-through with what you know to be healthy for you, even when it’s complicated or awkward. Your relationships are going through a bit of reorienting that reflects the big changes you’ve been going through. For best results, don’t be so quick to react; take stock of whether you’ve clearly communicated where you’re at and what you can or can’t do. Give your honies a chance to keep up with you before you decide that they can’t. Pace yourself for the win.

 

 

CAPRICORN

Dec. 22-Jan. 19

If you can get out of your own way, you can experience a greater love than what you’ve yet known, Cappy. The ways in which you protect yourself are admirable, but when you put up shields when you’re not in any actual danger, you aren’t making things safer. Check in with the walls you’ve built around yourself, and make sure that they’re keeping you safe and not isolated. You don’t have to trust that others will always be cool, but you do have to trust yourself. If you know that you’ll take care of you in dodgy situations, it’s OK to take those emo risks.

 

 

AQUARIUS

Jan. 20-Feb. 18

You don’t have to want to be all lovey dovey or married and buried, Aquarius. You get to want to be alone, or to be in any kind of relationship structure that appeals to you. What you do need is to be clear about what you’re here for and to make sure that you’re participating in the kinds of relationships that work for your truest self. The Full Moon on the 10th will bring up some intense feels about where you’re at in your closest connections – don’t make light of it. Commit to cultivating the kind of self-understanding that allows you to attract the situations and dynamics that make you happy, my love.

 

 

PISCES

Feb. 19-March 20

When you start saying no or even just changing, it’s easy for the people who you’re closest to, to feel threatened. It’s normal, but that doesn’t mean that you have to indulge other people’s feelings, Pisces. Be ready for the real-life impact of changes you’ve been working on for months. Don’t get all people-pleasy when things get intense; stand your ground when it feels important because if you lose someone for being honest, you never had them at all. From the 25th though to the 29th, be extra mindful with your reactions. If you’ve mislead people to believe that things were OK when they weren’t, you may have to take responsibility. Own your part and build from there this month.

 

 

XO

 

 

💖 Love Horoscope: April 2017

horoscope originally written for Glamour

 

ARIES

March 21-April 19

From the 6th through the 14th you’re in for it, Aries! It’s the final days of Venus Retrograde, and if you haven’t aligned your actions with your values, you’re likely to be feeling the pressure. Don’t react with defensiveness to other people’s perceptions of you unless you’re down for a fight. If you know what you are, you also know what you’re not; you don’t need justify your actions, but you’re gonna want to if they weren’t true to you. The full Moon on the 10th will kick up relationship dynamics, which you can totally manage if you’re on your game but will send you into a tailspin if you’re off it. Don’t freak out! Just let the complicated stuff point you towards what you need to work on, lover.

 

 

­TAURUS

April 20-May 20

When Mercury goes Retrograde in your sign on the 9th, you’ll have the double whammy of your ruling planet, Venus, and the planet of communication, Mercury, making you feel all kinds of awkward. This is a great time for reviewing your relationships, and I suggest starting with a little place called you. If you’ve been choosing relationships and dynamics in your life that consistently make you unhappy, there must be something else you’re getting from the situation. Investigate your unconscious motives towards yourself, Taurus. You can expect some discord in your friendship world around the 8th and then around the 21st; don’t lash out before looking at how your participation has affected things. Love is an action, and it’s all about process, not perfection, my love.

 

 

GEMINI

May 21-June 21

There’s what you think about your relationships, and then there’s how you act; there’s what you intend to do for your self-care, and then there’s what you actually do. These two things are meaningfully connected, and this Venus Retrograde cycle (over on the 15th) is likely to have illuminated those connections for you. Just in case you’re not sure about the links between how you take care of yourself and the interpersonal connections that you have, Venus is down to teach you one big lesson on the 8th and then again on the 21st when it squares Saturn. Be prepared to deal with things as they really are, Twin Star. If you don’t like it, there’s no time for change like this very moment.

 

 

CANCER

June 22-July 22

Your work/life balance is hecka up this month, Moonchild. Take some time to make sure that you’re not too burnt out to feel the love that’s in your life because you totally deserve to experience your sweetest of feels. When Mercury goes Retrograde on the 9th, it’s your time to review your relationship to your big-picture goals and how you’re living up to them. If you’ve been caught up in the grind, you haven’t been honoring your true nature – you’re a lover, my friend. Don’t just run blindly out of the fear of scarcity; go towards security and the things you most want. If you can get what you want in life, then your job is to want the right things.

 

 

 

LEO

July 23-Aug. 22

This is the end, Leo. You may have let go a while back or you may need to do that now, but no matter what you’ve done in the past, it’s time to create the kind of closure that gives you peace. No one can tie up your feels for you – it’s a job for only you, no matter how tempting it is to make your wellness conditional on the will or actions of others. When you let go of the past, you are able to be open to the limitless potential of your future. As always, the Full Moon on the 10th is an excellent time for resolution of all kinds, but if you can’t get it done then, the New Moon on the 26th can support you in being open to life on the other side of where you’ve been.

 

 

 

VIRGO

Aug. 23-Sept. 22

How you treat your relationships is a matter of great consequence. Whether you have a tendency to withhold or to give too much, it’s kinda the same thing because in both cases you’re not being true to yourself, my love. This month will test you by bringing IRL consequences to the dynamics that you’ve consented to participating in. Whether or not the other person is at fault, it’s only your choices and actions that you need to concern yourself with. On the 8th and then again on the 21st you’re likely to be confronted with the need for change. Step up to the challenge of long-developing tensions with all the TLC you’ve got, Virgo.

 

 

LIBRA

Sept. 23-Oct. 22

Something or someone exciting may come through your life around the 7th, so get ready! The truism easy come, easy go should be observed, but take a chance, Libra! The Full Moon on the 10th is in your sign, and it’s a great time to spend alone, getting serious about your relationship to your own sweet self. This is a great moment to catch up with all the changes you’ve been facing and just be with it. Mercury, the planet of friendship and communications, will go Retrograde on the 9th and hit your relationship house on the 21st. You can only effectively express where you’re at if you know where that is; get yourself together before you tend to your interpersonal connections this month, lover.

 

 

 

SCORPIO

Oct. 23-Nov. 21

Love isn’t always fun. The more you like someone, the more you have to lose, and that’s scary and awful and enough to shut a good Scorpio down. Instead of protecting yourself from potential calamity, align yourself with the truth. Every light casts a shadow; don’t fear the shadow, my love. Step into the rough spots, and practice tolerance and compassion so that you can heal what’s hurting. Cultivate a lasting love life by letting the flow of your life direct you towards what needs attention. The New Moon on the 26th in your relationship house is an excellent time for new beginnings and a great reason to clear out your fears and let the light in.

 

 

 

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22-Dec. 21

When Mercury goes Retrograde on the 9th, it’ll make it easy for you to get so wrapped up in work that you forget about the little things. Commit to upping your self-care game this month, especially if it can include cleaning up your diet or exercise. Who and how you love are ongoing choices to make, and they’re a reflection of what you value enough to follow through on. Check in with your actions to make sure that it for reals reflects what you care about. When someone you care about is upset, it’s your turn to listen, not to defend yourself, Tarius. The Venus square to Saturn that will hit on the 8th and the 21st may be a bit humbling, but it’s just an opportunity to learn something.

 

 

 

CAPRICORN

Dec. 22-Jan. 19

You wanna stay home and tend to yourself, but the world keeps calling you out, Cappy.  It’s time for you to put your money where your mouth is and stand up for what you believe in. This month’s astrology wants you to live with greater balance and more authenticity, and it doesn’t care if it needs to gently nudge you in that direction or if it has to shove you down a flight of stairs to get there. Honor the changes you know you need to make in order to have a higher quality of life. You can receive all the love of the world, but if you don’t love the life you’re providing for your own sweet self, you won’t be able to feel that love. Start with your love for the Cappy within, Puppy.

 

 

AQUARIUS

Jan. 20-Feb. 18

There’s likely to be so much 411 coming at you in the first half of the month that it will be easy to get distracted from your love life – if your love life isn’t the thing that’s doing the distracting, that is. By the time that Mercury goes Retrograde on the 9th, you’ll be ready to start unpacking all the details and locating yourself within them. Don’t allow yourself to react to dynamics without sufficient forethought, Aquarius. How you participate with who you love gets woven into the fabric of that relationship. If you’re single and wanting to get with someone, you may have gotten so wrapped up in your narratives that you stopped really listening. Being surprised is an exciting part of getting to know people; create space for that, wherever you’re at in your relationships this month.

 

 

PISCES

Feb. 19-March 20

You get to have boundaries, even if it’s scary or if it disappoints or inconveniences others. You’re a person, and you don’t need an excuse or a defense for yourself; you do need to honor your limits and needs if you expect anyone else to. If you feel guilty when you say no to others, you need to ask yourself how you feel when you say it to yourself. Relationships are about give and take, and when you decide for others what they get of you, you risk underestimating them or underestimating yourself. It’s not your job to maintain others. Keep your side of the road clean, and let others do the same. If everything falls apart when you stop holding it together, it was bound to do it sooner or later, anyways.

 

 

XO

💖 Love Horoscope :March 2017

Written originally for Glamour 

 

ARIES

March 21-April 19

This month kicks off with hella emo vibes that’re trying to nudge you into making space for self-care. Spend intentional alone time and go on a mini social media cleanse. Try and clear the decks and realign with your values this month. On the 4th Venus goes Retrograde in your sign, and it’ll make you look at your friendships differently. Fight for what you believe in, but know that getting triggered by your gurl is not the same as her coming for you. Don’t project your dank feels about yourself onto the babes that love you most. The New Moon is in your sign only once a year. It’s a fantastic time for heartfelt and fiery new connections. Make sure your relationship is going in the right direction this month or course correct if it isn’t. If you’re not hooked-up, potential is in the air, so get out and make something happen, Aries. 

♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!


TAURUS

April 20-May 20

When your ruling planet, Venus, goes Retrograde on the 4th, you’re gonna need to get real with yourself, Taurus. The best way to take care of yourself this month is to get in touch with your values and to make sure that the way you’re living reflects them. Your relationships need extra TLC from you, and the place to start is with your homies. If your friendships have been coasting, you’re in for a rude awakening. Treat the bbs you love with the care that they deserve, no matter how compelling other parts of your life are. Your love life is also in need of maintenance, so here’s a pro tip to do it right: you don’t need to preserve everything. Don’t convince others to like you before you decide if you like them for real. You’ve gotta love yourself first and foremost, sweet one.

Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

GEMINI

May 21-June 21

Your sign has a bad habit of flying too close to the Sun and getting burned up. There’s only so much you can do, Twin Star. If you’ve taken on too much, or given your lover friend more than you can sustain, this month you’re gonna feel the bite. It’s healthy to have limits, and you get into trouble when you make commitments that you don’t make good on. Try to know yourself well enough to know where the wall is before you crash into it. After the 11th is an especially good time for one-on-one friend time or for chilling on your own. No matter how badly you want to rush things along, you need to pace yourself to protect your relationships this month.

 ♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

CANCER

June 22-July 22

Let the people who love you, know the real you, Moonchild. When the truth is uncomfortable you have a tendency to sidestep it as a way to protect yourself and others from cruddiness, but it doesn’t work. This month you’re on call to show up for the awkward stuff with the people you love. If you want others to show up for you, you’ve got to take risks. The ways that you protect yourself are backfiring because true intimacy doesn’t happen with fake peace, and you want the real thing. Don’t let yourself slip into nicey-nice BS when it’s time to get real, and don’t get real unless you’re willing to listen to how the other person is feeling.

♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

LEO

July 23-Aug. 22

You’re in it, Leo. you’ve got to strive to be honest with yourself, or you have no chance of being real with others. How you think about love and who you let into your life continue to be up for reexamination, Leo. Instead of trying to push down your feels and continue down a path that you know isn’t quite right, it’s time for some radical realness. This month it’ll be hard to keep control over things, so don’t even try, my friend.  Show up for the good, the bad, the ugly, and stick around for all of it. If you can’t be genuine with the babes you love, you’ve gotta ask yourself what that love is based on. Be the change that you want to see in your relationships this month.

 ♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

VIRGO

Aug. 23-Sept. 22

The Moon is full in your sign only once a year, and when it’s your time, it’s important that you take note. The 12th is going to be a heavy and introspective Full Moon in Virgo, and you have the chance to do some real healing, but it’ll take work. It’s time to get out of your own way, Virgo bb. Dissociate yourself from your old stories, and take a fresh look at how you’re participating in your relationships. You may have convinced yourself that things are a certain way, but that doesn’t make it so. Take stock of your actions and whether or not they reflect how you mean to be. To err is human; be humble about your part so you can finally move on.

 ♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

LIBRA

Sept. 23-Oct. 22

The New Moon on the 27th may bring you an exciting new crush, but nothing much will happen if you don’t put yourself out there, Libra. You're attracting people and dynamics that you’re resonating with – and if you don’t like what you’re getting, then the first thing you need to change is you. Ask your closest loves what they think you actually want; see what you’re putting out there without knowing it, Libra. This can be a time of growth spurts and heartfelt transformation if you let it. Confront uncomfortable truths, and deal with whatever you find. Love only lasts when it’s built on a foundation of a shared understanding of reality. You’re ready to move beyond your limitations. Be brave this month, lover.

♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

SCORPIO

Oct. 23-Nov. 21

Whether you like it or not, there’s going to be some meaningful movement in your closest relationships from the 11th onwards, Scorpio. Mars will be sitting in your relationship house, and that means that you’re going to push or be pushed my friend. How you’ve been taking care of your emotional health is finally coming around to impact your friendships, and it’s important that you listen with an open mind to what your babes have to tell you. As important as your love life is, it’s essential that you have more going on than just that. Invest in all the people and activities that you love this month for a well-rounded and happy you.

 ♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22-Dec. 21

You’ve changed. What used to work for you isn’t necessarily a match anymore, and even though it’s awkward, there’s no shame in that. Look out for the change inside your own heart and in your thinking. What used to be chill for you is shifting, and you’d be wise to catch up with it before things move way out of control, ‘Tarius. This month you’re being confronted with how far you’re willing to go in efforts to avoid rocking the boat. We all have to be somebody’s bad guy some of the time, but that doesn’t make you an actual ‘bad guy’. Honor the truth because it’s true whether you want to deal with it or not, Kitten.

♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

CAPRICORN

Dec. 22-Jan. 19

Don’t be scared of change, Cappy. There’s a lot of spikey energy in your relationships right now; be interested in what’s up instead of running away from upsets. Sometimes you’ve got to choose between keeping the peace and being authentic in order to keep your relationships strong. While it’s easy to go for the former at the expense of the latter, it’ll backfire on you in the long run. Cultivate diplomacy that doesn’t change the truthiness of what you need to say, my love. By the middle of the month you may be feeling in the mood for anything but love, but don’t worry, it’ll pass. No one knows better than you that sometimes work comes before play; tend to the heavy stuff and you’ll feel freer for it, this month.

 ♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

AQUARIUS

Jan. 20-Feb. 18

You don’t get to decide for others whether or not you’ve hurt their feels, Aquarius. People are emo and messy, and don’t always make sense to you, or even to themselves. If you decide that you’re ‘right’ and have all the proof to back that up, that doesn’t change a damn thing. If you care about others, then it’s your turn to listen, not to explain. If you can’t do this, you’ll find that you alienate yourself and convince no one of anything. The New Moon on the 27th will be a great time to reconcile whatever needs healing. Deepen your listening skills leading up till then, and you’ll have peace with the results.

♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here!

 

PISCES

Feb. 19-March 20

Don’t idealize people, Pisces. Even if you think that you’re choosing to see the best in someone, the truth is that if you don’t see the good, the bad, and the ugly, you’re not accepting the all of what they are. This month you’re going to have to confront some reality in your love life that you may or may not want to see. If you don’t like everything about a person that’s OK but you need to be honest with yourself about it. You have the right to stay or go, just don’t lie to yourself or bae about where you’re at and what your heart is saying. Own your feels and the consequences that they yield, my love.

♀Venus is Retrograde all month. Find out what it all means here! 

 

XO

 

 



 

 

 

2016 Love Yourself Astrology

I don't care much for Valentine's Day, but I do love LOVE; so I wrote this 2016 Love Forecast for you in honor of self-love! Loving yourself right lays the foundation for any kind of intimate relationship to thrive. Whether you're looking in the mirror, feeling your friends, or loving your bae, you deserve to be happy. Luckily it's hecka cool to be kind this year, so be a doll and spread some love around, BB! 

ARIES

March 21-April 19

Love Yourself:

The greatest enemy to your state of mind is your own damn self, Aries. How you manage anxieties will be the central thing that defines your happiness this year. You have so much going for you and even more resources at your disposal than you’re using, but you have to remember to be grateful for them. Instead of guilting yourself or searching for more than you have, strive to get grounded and present in the goodness of the here and now, even when it isn’t what you’d prefer, lover.

 

Love Relationships:

There’s no predicting the future, dahlink; well, actually, there’s hella ways to do it, but knowing what comes next won’t actually absolve you of the need to figure out how to live and love well. Don’t let your overactive mind steer your (at times) overactive ego toward defensive actions. Don’t attach more meaning than is necessary to all the little stuff, Aries. Your love life is playing itself out in stages, and no one stage will last forever. Let the magic and madness of relating to others unfold however it needs to.

 

­TAURUS

April 20-May 20

Love Yourself:

Your feelings are super important, but how you hold them will determine if they feel like a burden or an asset. Returning to the same feels and thoughts over and over tends to be more draining than helpful; nonetheless, you’re at a high risk of obsessing over things instead of moving through them. Your self-love pro tip is to treat yourself with the same compassion and patience that you would offer your BFF. However you feel is OK, so make time and space for your heart’s meows and barks, even when you don’t know what it means.

 

Love Relationships:

Success and failure are not about getting what you want or the absence of it; when it comes to relationships, it’s about being healthy and happy. Don’t be so attached to how things look that you deemphasize how you actually feel, Taurus. Listen to the people and situations in your life instead of forcing your will on them; it’ll make it way easier to get what you want that way. Don’t fix things that are better left broken, and don’t stay in dynamics when you can’t allow joy to permeate. You deserve the things that will bring you happiness, even when that isn’t what you thought it’d be, lover.

 

GEMINI

May 21-June 2

Love Yourself:

Love is a beautiful thing, but when it gets tested is when you have to have a serious come-to Yeezus, my gem. Trust your instincts, even when it’s inconvenient, scary, or hard. If you make mistakes, make sure that they’re heartfelt and honest ones. Your ability to make choices and live with them is being tested, and that takes hella self-love, Twin Star. Slipping into obsession and self-criticism is an easy, even lazy way to be. Dare to be successful and happy without consequences and self-sabotage, lover.

 

Love Relationships:

Don’t be scared of things changing in your love life because they have to change in order to keep up with you, Twin Star. Love is not a destination, it’s an action. Some times it’s an easy ride, and other times it’s rough. Don’t let the highs and lows distract you from your primary goal: happiness. Make sure that you’re brave enough to pursue it, even when it requires major upheaval. Keeping things fun is great, but even fun gets boring after a while. Joy is the ultimate end game, and whatever brings you there is good news. Embrace change, lover.

 

CANCER

June 22-July 22

Love Yourself:

You’re biggest hurdle is believing in yourself enough to finally do what you know you’ve gotta. It may sound too simple, but if you decide to be happy, you will be. This doesn’t mean that you should be a Pollyanna and pretend that life isn’t hard and that there aren’t dire problems that require your attention. Strive to find benefit and value in the things that are hurtful, and turn your attention often to the things that bring you joy. What you feed will grow, Moonchild, so pour yourself into every YES you’ve got to build up a happy love life with your own sweet self.

 

Love Relationships:

Fear is a bad MF because it whispers in your ear and tells you that it’s the only truth worth hearing. When you’re scared it inclines you to protect yourself, even when there’s no actual danger. Instead of defending yourself (and unwittingly pushing others away in the process), just practice being forthcoming, lover. If you’re scared that someone is being shady or if you don’t know where you stand, ask questions. Relationships take vulnerability, and that sticky stuff is a two-way street. Show up with the same honesty and care that you wish others would.

 

LEO

July 23-Aug. 22

Love Yourself:

Your center – otherwise known as your will -- is a healthy place to keep strong and bright; your ego, not so much. You may have confused the drives of your ego for your true needs in recent months, and if so, you’ve been having a pretty hard time of late. If you feel overwhelmed and burnt out, it’s your call to take a for reals break from your ego. Instead of defending it’s rights and avoiding it’s butthurt feels, try to understand what’s going on under the surface. You deserve a life that will make you authentically happy and not just satisfy your loudest inner-rumblings. Take healthy and brave risks, lover Leo.

 

Love Relationships:

If you’re going to make your relationships work, your biggest job is not to do it at the expense of your best self, Leo. The loyalty that you show the people you love shouldn’t overshadow your need to be loyal to your own needs. Don’t be so attached to how you want things to look that you forget the realest truth: it’s how you feel that matters. If the status quo is holding you back, be brave enough to dump it. if you stop holding on to what burdens you, you’ll have more room in your arms for what makes you happy, my love.

 

VIRGO

Aug. 23-Sept. 22

Love Yourself:

There’s no magic way to evade uncertainty and hard times, Virgo. your challenge is to not define yourself with every rough patch you hit. It’s to cope with the unpleasantness of life with patience. You’re ready for meaningful change, but first you’ve got to stop holding on to everything as though your life depended on it. Take loving care of yourself because how you do you lays the foundation to who you let in and how you let them treat you. Bring in the new by letting go of the old, even if you have to do it before the next thing presents itself.

 

Love Relationships:

Your relationships need to be flexible, or you’ll get stuck like the Tin Man. If your people need you to always be the supportive one, or if there’s no room for you to embody the fullness of what you are, you’ll end up atrophying, my love. Don’t look for a person who can make you happy, look for a dynamic that does that trick. A successful relationship works IRL, and not only in theory. Pleasure passes quickly and joy feeds your soul; make sure you’re choosing wisely between the two, Virgo.

 

LIBRA

Sept. 23-Oct. 22

Love Yourself:

There’s no amount of twisting and turning that’s gonna make you see the light. It’s time that you had a serious heart-to-heart with yourself, Libra. You’ve been a kinda weird friend to your self lately. How you handle anxiety directly relates to how you feel in your own skin, how you act around others, and what you believe is possible for your life. Don’t reason with yourself, because anxiety is -- by it’s very nature -- unreasonable. Instead, be kind to yourself, feed yourself, and sleep enough. Support yourself through upsets so that you can decide the best way to move through them.

 

Love Relationships:

You are loved and it’s a beautiful thing, Libra. Whether you have the love of your friends, family, bae, or your goldfish, now is the time to look at how you let that love in. If you allow other people to take care of you, that’s beautiful; but it shouldn’t replace how you care for yourself. Let the way that others love you inspire you to love better, bigger, and more wholly. Your ability to love is huge, so take the time to perfect how you express it and how you pace yourself through your intimacies. Strive to express yourself in a balanced way because having an open and willing heart is risky but totally worth it, lover.

 

SCORPIO

Oct. 23-Nov. 21

Love Yourself:

You can do it all right, but that doesn’t it mean that things’ll go your way; and if they don’t, it doesn’t mean that you’ve failed. Life is weird. You may think you know how things should go, but the Fates have their own plans. Secure yourself by getting solid about where you’re at, where you wanna go, and what you need to get there. It’s easy to think that things are going against you when they don’t go your way, but it isn’t true! Solidify your foundations, and then let go of your attachments to how things should look, Scorpio.

 

Love Relationships:

Beginnings are beautiful and fun and pose limitless possibilities. They’re also terrifying and can make you feel out of control in all kinds of ways. Process your sad and bad feels about your relationships past and present so that they don’t back you up. You need flow and when you’re scared, it’s hard to achieve it. When things feel chaotic, it’s not time to jump in the ring because those kinds of feels create all kinds of blind spots that can trip you up. Tend to your innards before you try and manage your relationships so that you solve issues instead of create them.

 

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22-Dec. 21

Love Yourself:

UGH. Saturn is in your sign, and it’s harshing your mellow, ‘Tarius. As annoying as it may be, you have to deal with some seriously adult themes, and it’s kinda a bummer, especially if you fight it. Carve out time for heartfelt contemplation. Get out your Dear Diary and use it to parse out what’s going on under the surface of your life, lover. You have meaningful choices to make, and it’s best if you can make them from an abundant and fluid place rather than out of fear.

 

Love Relationships:

Obsessing on things helps no one, lover. There’s the things you do and there’s how you feel, and if they’re not aligned you have nothing less than a huge mess. Don’t just put out the effort to do the ‘right’ thing; also strive to feel right with yourself. Forcing your will onto your relationships, even if you totally believe it’s for the best, will only create more friction in your relationships. Let things be for a while, babes. Let people reveal themselves to you in their own time. If you can accept where your relationships are starting from, you can more effectively making lasting changes moving forward.

 

CAPRICORN

Dec. 22-Jan. 19

Love Yourself:

Freedom comes from knowing yourself, and you, Cappy Mon Capitan are changing. There’s nothing you have to do other than be open to changing your mind, your ways of relating to others, and the energy with which you approach these things (that’s all!). Embrace change! Be interested in the possibilities that would be easy to shy away from or not entertain at all. Try out different ways of looking at things. If you participate in new ways, you’ll get new answers, lover.

 

Love Relationships:

In order to show up for your relationships, you’ve got to handle your head, Cappy. Anxiety is the worst because of how it feels and how it scrambles your perspective. It’s an old habit for you to expect the worst, and it’s totally played out; so be brave enough to take a new route. Show your self and the people you’re close to compassion and kindness, and see how much that shifts the playing field of how you connect. We’re all trying to do our best to be happy; it’s just that some of us are better at it than others. Put away your paranoia and embrace informed vulnerability so that you can have more love in your life.

 

AQUARIUS

Jan. 20-Feb. 18

Love Yourself:

Loving yourself is both a receptive and an active thing. You’ve got to be able to hear the whispers of your inner voice in order to heed them, but you have a tendency to get in your own way when those whispers are emotionally laden. Be a good date to yourself and be a better listener, Aquarius. You may need to take a time-out, so you can get calm enough to feel your feels. Once you’re clear about your needs, what to do next will organically show up for you. Play nice while you’re gestating and trust your instincts, lover.

 

Love Relationships:

Don’t try to get others to do your bidding just ‘cause you’re distracted. Self-protection is essential, but it shouldn’t come at the expense of collaborating in your relationships. Don’t be shy to take a step back from the ones you love when you know that you can’t really give them the energy they deserve. As restless as you can be, it's time to employ patience with the people you care about. It’s unclear what you’re feeling when you’re distracted by other things, so reserve judgment until your heart catches up with your head.

 

PISCES

Feb. 19-March 20

Love Yourself:

We’re always growing up, Pisces, and how you handle your life today determines the kind of grown-up person you’ll become. Take the time to take care of yourself, lover. You are changing, and you’ve got to make sure that you’re pointing yourself in a healthy and happy direction instead of only making sure that you’re pointed away from upsets. You’re at a foundation-laying phase, and from this place you don’t have to have all the answers, you only have to be moving in the right direction.

 

Love Relationships:

In order to have truly successful relationships, you’ve gotta figure out how to be more honest, Pisces. Protecting people’s feelings sounds nice on the surface. Are you in truth protecting others from your needs, feels, and opinions; or are you shielding yourself from having to be accountable for them? Work on being more worthy of trust by showing up authentically, even if it’s hella awkward. Here’s a little pro tip to get you started: your integrity and your feelings are all wrapped up with each other, so when you’re looking for what’s true, just honor what you feel, BB.

XO

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Be Yours 2014 Love Horoscope

I’m not a fan of V-Day ‘cause it makes single folks feel lonely and coupled people feel pressured. So in defiance of Hallmark and low-quality/high-calorie chocolates in heart shaped boxes I present to you the Be Yours Horoscopes for 2014. Everyone is talking about their romantic life (or lack thereof) today, and I say: let's talk about self love! The only way to have a healthy love life is to be healthy in how you approach it. Cuz loving yourself comes before you can love anyone else, today and every day.

xo

 

ARIES

March 21-April 19

Co-dependence is not a four letter word but it might as well be. When you love somebody it’s easy to take advantage of them because the comfort that you have can lend itself to emotional laziness. The best way to protect the relationships you care the most for is by being willing to take care of yourself. Honestly communicate where you’re at without expecting others to feel the same, or share your perspective. Co-create your relationships, Aries.

TAURUS

April 20-May 20

It’s best when you’re not rushed, Taurus. Love needs time to grow and the right conditions to flourish in, and that all takes time to develop. Pair soulful self-reflection with steady action in matters of the heart. You are capable of so much! You are able in the realm of intimacy and also with the maintenance aspects of partnership. Give yourself the space and time to choose the right people and situations to thrive in, my friend.

GEMINI

May 21-June 21

It’s important that you know why you want the relationships that you have. Some people are good for hanging out with and some folks are the ones that you can love and trust in the long haul. We tend to need both kinds of relationships and you’d be wise to make sure that your life is not too lopsided. Cultivate many kinds of love to support what (or who) ever is most important to you. As the adage says: it takes a village to keep a Gemini happy.

CANCER

June 22-July 22

Pain has a funny way of clarifying things or making them somehow more pure. That’s because when your survival instincts are engaged your thoughts can quiet down. When your gut instincts don’t have to compete for attention to be heard, they are so much easier to heed. Don’t wait for heartache to teach you how to rely on yourself, Moonchild. Develop ways of checking in with yourself and your heartfelt intuition before you need to.

LEO

July 23-Aug. 22

Don’t wait until you’re overwhelmed before you tell your loved ones what’s going on with you, Leo. You’re not responsible for taking care of everyone and everything, but you are responsible for yourself. This means that you’ve got to be honest about how close to your limits you are before you hit them. There’s no need to rush; you’ll get the most from your love life if you prioritize being present, wherever that is. The future will eventually meet you here.

VIRGO

Aug. 23-Sept. 22

It’s hard to connect to people in a way that nurtures your soul when you’re stuck in a stance of self-protection. Your relationships require you to do the right thing; live by your code of ethics and honor the expectations you’ve created. But that’s all. You get to have boundaries and limits that support you, Virgo. Identify what you need and either create it or request it from those you purport to trust. Relationships travel on a two-way street.

LIBRA

Sept. 23-Oct. 22

The people that you attract to your life and choose to keep around reflect a lot about who you are. If you can’t trust your lovers (of both the platonic and romantic variety) then why do you keep them close? It’s time to take stock of your relationship choices and make sure they reflect what’s in your heart and your best interests. There’s no need for immediate action; pursue a fact-finding investigation about the role you play with the love you’ve got.

SCORPIO

Oct. 23-Nov. 21

When you feel upset and life bums you out, the worst thing you can do is try to cover up those feelings with fake cheer, Scorpio. You feel your emotions from a very deep place inside of you and need to tend to that place in a healthy way. Make sure that you spend enough time alone to support yourself, but not so much that you get to brooding and make things worse. It’s a magic combination and you’ll only hit it with practice and patience.

SAGITTARIUS

Nov. 22-Dec. 21

It’s no secret that you like to go big or go home as yours is the sign of limitless possibilities. When it comes to love and sustainable human intimacy there has got to be limits to what we can give and get, though. Allowing for healthy adjustments to your relationships only helps you and your partners to be more true and free. Don’t lock and load who you love; let intimacies develop in ways that work for all parties, even when that’s uncomfortable.

CAPRICORN

Dec. 22-Jan. 19

If you look for the worst, it's not hard to find it, and if you’re all filled up with fear and self-hate, then it leaves very little room for anything else to come in. You’ve got have self-love in order to attract and take in the love of another. Confront your demons, Capricorn, and do it with compassion for how they got there and how they’re screwing you up now. The worst you can do is enable yourself to stay stuck in a rut that keeps others at bay.

AQUARIUS

Jan. 20-Feb. 18

Your independence is a huge part of who you are, Aquarius, and you shouldn’t have to change that to be loved or to have your relationships function in a healthy way. The thing that you do have to be flexible about is how you express your autonomy to others. Be generous with how you express yourself, especially if you feel defensive about your need for space so that you don’t create the very dynamics that you are trying to avoid.

PISCES

Feb. 19-March 20

Kick the habit of putting others before yourself, Pisces. Get inspired by the people you care about whether it’s reciprocated or not. This is not the time to get caught up and slowed down by your insecurities. Dare to be more and to assert who and what you are firmly and with kindness to the people you want to be close to. You can take up space and take care of those you love at the same time; one does not have to come at the expense of the other.

xo