I don't care much for Valentine's Day, but I do love LOVE; so I wrote this 2016 Love Forecast for you in honor of self-love! Loving yourself right lays the foundation for any kind of intimate relationship to thrive. Whether you're looking in the mirror, feeling your friends, or loving your bae, you deserve to be happy. Luckily it's hecka cool to be kind this year, so be a doll and spread some love around, BB!
March 21-April 19
The greatest enemy to your state of mind is your own damn self, Aries. How you manage anxieties will be the central thing that defines your happiness this year. You have so much going for you and even more resources at your disposal than you’re using, but you have to remember to be grateful for them. Instead of guilting yourself or searching for more than you have, strive to get grounded and present in the goodness of the here and now, even when it isn’t what you’d prefer, lover.
There’s no predicting the future, dahlink; well, actually, there’s hella ways to do it, but knowing what comes next won’t actually absolve you of the need to figure out how to live and love well. Don’t let your overactive mind steer your (at times) overactive ego toward defensive actions. Don’t attach more meaning than is necessary to all the little stuff, Aries. Your love life is playing itself out in stages, and no one stage will last forever. Let the magic and madness of relating to others unfold however it needs to.
April 20-May 20
Your feelings are super important, but how you hold them will determine if they feel like a burden or an asset. Returning to the same feels and thoughts over and over tends to be more draining than helpful; nonetheless, you’re at a high risk of obsessing over things instead of moving through them. Your self-love pro tip is to treat yourself with the same compassion and patience that you would offer your BFF. However you feel is OK, so make time and space for your heart’s meows and barks, even when you don’t know what it means.
Success and failure are not about getting what you want or the absence of it; when it comes to relationships, it’s about being healthy and happy. Don’t be so attached to how things look that you deemphasize how you actually feel, Taurus. Listen to the people and situations in your life instead of forcing your will on them; it’ll make it way easier to get what you want that way. Don’t fix things that are better left broken, and don’t stay in dynamics when you can’t allow joy to permeate. You deserve the things that will bring you happiness, even when that isn’t what you thought it’d be, lover.
May 21-June 2
Love is a beautiful thing, but when it gets tested is when you have to have a serious come-to Yeezus, my gem. Trust your instincts, even when it’s inconvenient, scary, or hard. If you make mistakes, make sure that they’re heartfelt and honest ones. Your ability to make choices and live with them is being tested, and that takes hella self-love, Twin Star. Slipping into obsession and self-criticism is an easy, even lazy way to be. Dare to be successful and happy without consequences and self-sabotage, lover.
Don’t be scared of things changing in your love life because they have to change in order to keep up with you, Twin Star. Love is not a destination, it’s an action. Some times it’s an easy ride, and other times it’s rough. Don’t let the highs and lows distract you from your primary goal: happiness. Make sure that you’re brave enough to pursue it, even when it requires major upheaval. Keeping things fun is great, but even fun gets boring after a while. Joy is the ultimate end game, and whatever brings you there is good news. Embrace change, lover.
June 22-July 22
You’re biggest hurdle is believing in yourself enough to finally do what you know you’ve gotta. It may sound too simple, but if you decide to be happy, you will be. This doesn’t mean that you should be a Pollyanna and pretend that life isn’t hard and that there aren’t dire problems that require your attention. Strive to find benefit and value in the things that are hurtful, and turn your attention often to the things that bring you joy. What you feed will grow, Moonchild, so pour yourself into every YES you’ve got to build up a happy love life with your own sweet self.
Fear is a bad MF because it whispers in your ear and tells you that it’s the only truth worth hearing. When you’re scared it inclines you to protect yourself, even when there’s no actual danger. Instead of defending yourself (and unwittingly pushing others away in the process), just practice being forthcoming, lover. If you’re scared that someone is being shady or if you don’t know where you stand, ask questions. Relationships take vulnerability, and that sticky stuff is a two-way street. Show up with the same honesty and care that you wish others would.
July 23-Aug. 22
Your center – otherwise known as your will -- is a healthy place to keep strong and bright; your ego, not so much. You may have confused the drives of your ego for your true needs in recent months, and if so, you’ve been having a pretty hard time of late. If you feel overwhelmed and burnt out, it’s your call to take a for reals break from your ego. Instead of defending it’s rights and avoiding it’s butthurt feels, try to understand what’s going on under the surface. You deserve a life that will make you authentically happy and not just satisfy your loudest inner-rumblings. Take healthy and brave risks, lover Leo.
If you’re going to make your relationships work, your biggest job is not to do it at the expense of your best self, Leo. The loyalty that you show the people you love shouldn’t overshadow your need to be loyal to your own needs. Don’t be so attached to how you want things to look that you forget the realest truth: it’s how you feel that matters. If the status quo is holding you back, be brave enough to dump it. if you stop holding on to what burdens you, you’ll have more room in your arms for what makes you happy, my love.
Aug. 23-Sept. 22
There’s no magic way to evade uncertainty and hard times, Virgo. your challenge is to not define yourself with every rough patch you hit. It’s to cope with the unpleasantness of life with patience. You’re ready for meaningful change, but first you’ve got to stop holding on to everything as though your life depended on it. Take loving care of yourself because how you do you lays the foundation to who you let in and how you let them treat you. Bring in the new by letting go of the old, even if you have to do it before the next thing presents itself.
Your relationships need to be flexible, or you’ll get stuck like the Tin Man. If your people need you to always be the supportive one, or if there’s no room for you to embody the fullness of what you are, you’ll end up atrophying, my love. Don’t look for a person who can make you happy, look for a dynamic that does that trick. A successful relationship works IRL, and not only in theory. Pleasure passes quickly and joy feeds your soul; make sure you’re choosing wisely between the two, Virgo.
Sept. 23-Oct. 22
There’s no amount of twisting and turning that’s gonna make you see the light. It’s time that you had a serious heart-to-heart with yourself, Libra. You’ve been a kinda weird friend to your self lately. How you handle anxiety directly relates to how you feel in your own skin, how you act around others, and what you believe is possible for your life. Don’t reason with yourself, because anxiety is -- by it’s very nature -- unreasonable. Instead, be kind to yourself, feed yourself, and sleep enough. Support yourself through upsets so that you can decide the best way to move through them.
You are loved and it’s a beautiful thing, Libra. Whether you have the love of your friends, family, bae, or your goldfish, now is the time to look at how you let that love in. If you allow other people to take care of you, that’s beautiful; but it shouldn’t replace how you care for yourself. Let the way that others love you inspire you to love better, bigger, and more wholly. Your ability to love is huge, so take the time to perfect how you express it and how you pace yourself through your intimacies. Strive to express yourself in a balanced way because having an open and willing heart is risky but totally worth it, lover.
Oct. 23-Nov. 21
You can do it all right, but that doesn’t it mean that things’ll go your way; and if they don’t, it doesn’t mean that you’ve failed. Life is weird. You may think you know how things should go, but the Fates have their own plans. Secure yourself by getting solid about where you’re at, where you wanna go, and what you need to get there. It’s easy to think that things are going against you when they don’t go your way, but it isn’t true! Solidify your foundations, and then let go of your attachments to how things should look, Scorpio.
Beginnings are beautiful and fun and pose limitless possibilities. They’re also terrifying and can make you feel out of control in all kinds of ways. Process your sad and bad feels about your relationships past and present so that they don’t back you up. You need flow and when you’re scared, it’s hard to achieve it. When things feel chaotic, it’s not time to jump in the ring because those kinds of feels create all kinds of blind spots that can trip you up. Tend to your innards before you try and manage your relationships so that you solve issues instead of create them.
Nov. 22-Dec. 21
UGH. Saturn is in your sign, and it’s harshing your mellow, ‘Tarius. As annoying as it may be, you have to deal with some seriously adult themes, and it’s kinda a bummer, especially if you fight it. Carve out time for heartfelt contemplation. Get out your Dear Diary and use it to parse out what’s going on under the surface of your life, lover. You have meaningful choices to make, and it’s best if you can make them from an abundant and fluid place rather than out of fear.
Obsessing on things helps no one, lover. There’s the things you do and there’s how you feel, and if they’re not aligned you have nothing less than a huge mess. Don’t just put out the effort to do the ‘right’ thing; also strive to feel right with yourself. Forcing your will onto your relationships, even if you totally believe it’s for the best, will only create more friction in your relationships. Let things be for a while, babes. Let people reveal themselves to you in their own time. If you can accept where your relationships are starting from, you can more effectively making lasting changes moving forward.
Dec. 22-Jan. 19
Freedom comes from knowing yourself, and you, Cappy Mon Capitan are changing. There’s nothing you have to do other than be open to changing your mind, your ways of relating to others, and the energy with which you approach these things (that’s all!). Embrace change! Be interested in the possibilities that would be easy to shy away from or not entertain at all. Try out different ways of looking at things. If you participate in new ways, you’ll get new answers, lover.
In order to show up for your relationships, you’ve got to handle your head, Cappy. Anxiety is the worst because of how it feels and how it scrambles your perspective. It’s an old habit for you to expect the worst, and it’s totally played out; so be brave enough to take a new route. Show your self and the people you’re close to compassion and kindness, and see how much that shifts the playing field of how you connect. We’re all trying to do our best to be happy; it’s just that some of us are better at it than others. Put away your paranoia and embrace informed vulnerability so that you can have more love in your life.
Jan. 20-Feb. 18
Loving yourself is both a receptive and an active thing. You’ve got to be able to hear the whispers of your inner voice in order to heed them, but you have a tendency to get in your own way when those whispers are emotionally laden. Be a good date to yourself and be a better listener, Aquarius. You may need to take a time-out, so you can get calm enough to feel your feels. Once you’re clear about your needs, what to do next will organically show up for you. Play nice while you’re gestating and trust your instincts, lover.
Don’t try to get others to do your bidding just ‘cause you’re distracted. Self-protection is essential, but it shouldn’t come at the expense of collaborating in your relationships. Don’t be shy to take a step back from the ones you love when you know that you can’t really give them the energy they deserve. As restless as you can be, it's time to employ patience with the people you care about. It’s unclear what you’re feeling when you’re distracted by other things, so reserve judgment until your heart catches up with your head.
Feb. 19-March 20
We’re always growing up, Pisces, and how you handle your life today determines the kind of grown-up person you’ll become. Take the time to take care of yourself, lover. You are changing, and you’ve got to make sure that you’re pointing yourself in a healthy and happy direction instead of only making sure that you’re pointed away from upsets. You’re at a foundation-laying phase, and from this place you don’t have to have all the answers, you only have to be moving in the right direction.
In order to have truly successful relationships, you’ve gotta figure out how to be more honest, Pisces. Protecting people’s feelings sounds nice on the surface. Are you in truth protecting others from your needs, feels, and opinions; or are you shielding yourself from having to be accountable for them? Work on being more worthy of trust by showing up authentically, even if it’s hella awkward. Here’s a little pro tip to get you started: your integrity and your feelings are all wrapped up with each other, so when you’re looking for what’s true, just honor what you feel, BB.